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lighter:
That was a super satisfying update, Amber.  In so many ways: )

Countdown continues.

Lighter

sKePTiKal:
5 Days, a wake up, and an 8 hr drive (more or less).

Man is working himself like a rented mule. All while thinking a mile a minute. When I tell him to rest, the comeback is he'll rest when he's HERE. Sigh. Hol is already up and mowing (she has friends coming to camp at the hut in a couple weeks and works 8 days before that). I need to get busy too. Nothing I'm doing is all that strenuous. Which is OK, since it's yucky hot again this weekend.

Freddy has made my back deck (off the bedroom) his mouse boneyard. He only eats the heads off the little mousies. Weirdo. Stinker is definitely a "big boy" now - but he's still little kitty too. Wants his mommy-lap snuggle time. When he's not out in the grass or woods stalking & being the "big predator cat".

I am surprisingly calm. Contentedly happy - not over-excited or even making "have to" lists. Still grounded. Imagination isn't reined in... but it's not concerned with fantasy; more of an investigating what reality is going to be next Friday evening. I am noticing that my sense of time seems to have warped into distortion. Like it doesn't really exist, except as a construct for dealing with the outside world. Maybe I've been out here in unstructured simple life too long. LOLOLOLOL. Or this brand of happiness feeling is interfering with my linear, left brain routines & discipline.  There is a LITTLE conditional thinking going on; plannning to do things WHEN B is here, instead of pushing myself like he does to do it BEFORE he's here.

Like cooking, I usually pre-cook some food when I have company so I can relax a bit. But it dawned on me: Buck likes to cook, and we can cook together. We need to go grill shopping too. I only brought a charcoal grill with me, when I moved. (Gas grill was built in at beach house.) At some point, a smoker appeared, too - that found it's way to the hut for a big campout weekend last year. So that begs the question: what size grill? If its just he & I most of the time, it can be smaller. Deb still comes out. Some of our friends aren't too far away, to not drop in occasionally... and Hol's friends have adopted me anyway. He seemed to like the idea of entertaining - I'll need to ask him more about that. But I know he's looking forward to just the two of us time, most of the time. Stuff IS portable, so hut grills can travel back up here, if needed. So, all I need to do is gather raw ingredients for this visit...

and then, like a regular couple we can go shopping together, ya know? Or make the list together while one runs.

And this just makes me grin......... non-stop.

lighter:
Maybe B will have a beloved, perfectly sized grill on arrival?  Maybe cook one meal ahead in anticipation....to eat well while planning, shopping meals you'll cook together.

Maybe stay smiling and happy waiting to deal with food with B and let that be exactly right.

Looking forward to outdoor kitchen, main bed and bath updates. 

Good kitty.
::Patting head::
 Handling rodents around the house is a good thing.

Lighter

sKePTiKal:
Master bedroom & bath reno was all complete last year. There is yet a bit of electrical & trim on the stone wall that replaced the useless electric fireplace.

I've got a couple things in mind for quick meals. It's still hot, he's an energizer bunny and while he NEEDS food, he doesn't need a "meat & three" meal everyday. Pulled pork BBQ will go in crockpot and I have leftover honey ham from the holidays - ham salad makes a quick lunch. Coleslaw & gourmet potato salad. Banana pudding & ice cream w/toppings... but the chocolate ghost pepper sauce was out of stock, when I checked this week. She's going to see about availability (it's locally made). It's great on honey ice cream... and I also got about a pint of raspberries from my 2 year canes this year. I was a little slow on picking; and if you don't freeze them right away - they just don't keep but a day, maybe two in the fridge.

I'll check the locally raised butcher shop later next week for "grill fodder" & their fabulous bacon & sausage & cheese... farmer's market is Sat. and he and I can check out the other new farm store in the other direction on my "grand tour of back roads and wide places in the road" - including a trip through where the first homestead is. Curiosity is my bane. I don't freeze any of the meat from the butcher or farm stores except ground lamb & beef. The quality is THAT good, it needs to be fresh.

IF I can drag him away from working long enough to let me show him the backroads.

Almost forgot: the butcher had pastrami and they have good swiss cheese. I see reubens in our future.

Hopalong:
I dunno...I think if he's working that hard and will be arriving exhausted,
might be cool to go ahead and get a decent grill and have it there all set up and
done... (I personally loathe shopping though, dunno how B feels about it). My guess is he'll be overwhelmed at how wonderfully provisioned his life is, how welcome you've made him feel, and how delicious it feels to not run around a lot yet. And he probably shouldn't lift a finger for a couple weeks.

Does truck time hurt B? Meaning, driving and his ole bones?

Speaking of which, sounds like you want to put some meat on those! He's going to enjoy THAT. And beautiful green salads from your garden, too.

SO happy for you two. I like the sound of your calm and inner peace before you slip through the stones. Feeling that way is such a good indicator of how you've resolved anxieties, welcomed the good-things possibilities, and know that he fits a big B-shaped space in your psyche. I think it's going to go so well, I really do.

Nice description of how you and Hol are finding a less-enmeshed peace, as well. Peace is an ongoing project in some dynamics, and it sounds as though you really perceive more maturation and change with her. I'm so relieved to hear it.

How she ever turned B into a boogie monster I'll never quite understand, but good on you for defending your right to love whomever you love, regardless of her opinions/jealousies/fears. She's not quite there but she still has growing up to do. I bet her work is making a difference too. She really needs to experience herself apart from "Mom's compound" and whatever degree of buy-in she cultivates in herself, by herself, for herself, will make her future on the mountain should she decide to stay, a lot happier. Steve's a different question but it sounds as though things are more peaceful on that front, too. Glad Hol is left to resolve her own relationship issues, now though, rather than run everything through you. Hope that continues, too.

If left alone to find their own way to understanding each other, she and B might even wind up as friends. No predicting or pushing it, but it might happen.

Such good things, so many possibilities, and happy cats!

hugs
Hops

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