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lighter:
Woo boy.... can't wait for B to make that final journey over the mountain, Amber.

Hopefully his ex won't follow.

Will be interesting to see how B handles it, if she does.

Good luck paying that bill.  It's one of the jobs I've been putting off ........paying bills on the island.  So many things have to line up to get the job done.  Finding the box with the files, finding the passwords, getting through when the system is up, sticking with it till it is, if it's down, bc the phone company can't take payment over the phone..... not sure why, but it's maddening.

Enjoy the cooler weather.

Lighter

Hopalong:
Amber, I really admire your restraint about interfering w/B's ex sitch. Very very wise.

And envy the duckies and tomatoes canning and earth earth earth you are so tuned into. Bravo on your produtive harvest.

Mine's too pitiful to mention.

hugs
Hops

sKePTiKal:
Well, my suspicious brain was barking up the wrong tree. (And she's gone now.) Turns out real life intersects my relationship... in that her lease was up; landloard tripled the rent; and she needed a place to stay while waiting for new affordable place to open up. So, D invited her to stay there. Not a lot more needs to be said about that. Maybe OOPS? Sorry?

Yeah, at this point, I'm pretty sure he can't get here soon enough to suit me. I'm still a grumpasaurus and my sarcastic streak is popping out again. When that happens, I give Dorothy Parker a run for her money. I'd better go take care o' business and use some of that energy.

Hopalong:
LOL. I know how that happens.
Sometimes I can pre-analyse and respond to all sorts of negative complexities in my head with matching complexity when the actual rationale for all that mental steam is completely absent. Blush.

Dorothy Parker is aiming high! I am working at a new plan for the church community, as it'll be small-scale. "Elder Net." It's not going to aim at "everybody old" there, but specifically at those who still live independently (as I hope to even years from now) but have no family near. Just the "isolated elders", so to speak. Spoke to the minister about it and she was enthused. We're going to meet/Zoom about it later this month.

I think building a simple system with a half-dozen volunteers to check in, visit when safe, or just call or email often enough so the person knows somebody gives a damn, would be right up my alley. My friend Gennulman wasn't found for several days when he died, which was unacceptable, and I'm sure it's happened before. Just not okay, if we practice what we preach.

Elder-elders, with their deaf ears and shaky voices and crabby (pain-expressing) or stubborn natures are just too damn easy to ignore. Even in retirement communities, I found out back when I did it for pay.

I hope she'll support me and help me get it rolling. It would feel really good and I know that turf.

hugs
Hops

sKePTiKal:
Hops, I think that's an excellent project for you. Remember to keep it as simple as possible. It keeps you engaged in something you know a lot about and fits your natural outgoing, helpful & compassionate nature.

One more step to do in my "have tos" today - I don't count collecting the trash. Overcame the tech glitch for bill paying too. Hol had to report for jury duty in B'more today and should be home soon. She had a close encounter with "the other woman" in her life in the jury pool... and I know her brain is rolling it around in all kinds of crumbs too. We can compare notes & commiserate... and even laugh at ourselves. (In some ways, that helps more than anything else for maintaining perspective - sometimes the sarcasm morphs into that.)

I'm tempted today, to start kicking the habitual "overwhelm" I feel when the simple things I need to do -- are unduly complicated. (Including the tendency in my own head to speculate.) I have tomatos I want to peel and start boiling down for a fresh marinara sauce. No idea how long it'll take... but it'll give me a chance to let my mind wander & daydream and speculate about stuff that isn't at all important. And I think that just might be therapeutic.

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