Hi, Pinecone, didn't mean to forget you in my reply to Miaxo's comment. The "solution" is YOU and what you are doing right now! You have ultimate power! YES, focus on what is positive, YES let the rest go. That is what is to be done. We do not have to be the "vicitms" of anything (our experience or heritage). We get to choose what we want. You are doing that. You get to be the real you, the one before and under all the pain, and nothing else. You get to decide and view life any way you want, which can include dumping your pain which you didn't ask for and are not overtly responsible for, but what the universe gave you to learn how to be happy. So use it, walk through it, past it and into happines. Oh, wait, you're doing that, see?