Anything

[teartracks]

Too cute!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K0GPQ5NentI

[teartracks]

Dear TT, I wish I could hire YOU to come spend a day helping me unpack my office! It's become an open door I'm afraid to look at as I scoot through the rest of the place.

love
Hops

Late breaking wisdom Hops.  Yeah, don't look at it and for sure don't go knocking on it!

tt

[sea storm]

Twelve step program.

I live in a small town in BC Canada on an island etc. There is an AA and I go to it because I have that issue of course. Addictions. To men, alcohol, food, and all the rest. Today it was so amazing. Over the years people have become more open hearted and share their feelings. Native people are very good at this and they hold family above all else. Jobs don't matter, Money nope, status nope.
This makes for different points of view. This is an unpretentious group of people

When I first walked in the door I thought that they were definately not the group for me. Quite the scruffy lot. Now I don't think that. These are My People.

There may be flaws in the program but basically it is a good journey to take and has kept me from offing myself through the trauma of the narcissistic ex.  Gradually, I have learned that resentment, rage and anger can kill me. The other person isn't bothered but it is killing me. Nearly every day someone brings that subject up. Blaming someone for how one feels.

There are old guys there, old women, lots of Natives, a biker woman who looks after her addicted daughter's baby, young men and women, teachers, not many professional people, hard working guys, a good mix of people. It is a very equal community. I am not yelling from the rooftops for anyone to go since that does not work but I think it has helped me so much.

Sea storm

[Hopalong]

Sea, I am very moved by the beauty and depth of your description of that community.
I am so glad you've got peeps. And these people, particularly.

I imagine too that 3/4 of the year it is mild there, and 4/4 -- beautiful.
And that feeds the soul.

I am pretty awed by you, Sea storm.
You know what you're talking about.

Thanks for continually coming back.

love
Hops

[Cadbury]

Hope, I can remember you when I first joined this board - nine years ago now! You were an inspiration then and looks like you still are now.

Hugs to you!

(If you even remember me!)

[Hopalong]

Hugs back, (((((((((((Cadbury))))))))))!
And welcome back.

Any chance you could do a digest of your story for those who haven't met you?

love
Hops

[Cadbury]

I shall do that a bit later. I did update my old thread, but I shall try and do a digest this evening or something. It's good to "see" you!

X

[Meh]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KKWYfENFLSA

[Meh]

exhausted not much else to say - oh meant to put this else where but here it is

[Meh]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jUHV703ZRys

[Hopalong]

(((TT)))

In my past, I found that many men who found me "normal" were dysfunctional as hell.
Meaning, I was attracted to damaged, destructive or withholding mates.

Now that I'm healthier (and medicated for ADD) the "normal" or at least non-toxic male
is all I can consider.

Thank ZEUS! 

xo
Hops

[Meh]

FROM this source here >  http://costsofwar.org/article/us-killed-0

•Over 6,800 American men and women in uniform have died in the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan

•An estimated 6,790 private contractors working for the US have died in the war zones

•Coalition partners have died in large numbers: approximately 30,500 uniformed Afghans, Iraqis and other allies have died since 2001



http://apps.washingtonpost.com/national/fallen/




> Age-20 to 24, this is the age range with the highest number of deaths

Now I have to look through their photos I just must, I know it is sad stuff but I wonder if there were some that truly were doing it for all American citizens if they actually felt they had a sense of purpose and duty or maybe they were enlisted for money


Obviously most of them it doesn't look like it was for money, a slide show of their bedrooms shows that they were interested in the Armed Forces.

http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2010/03/21/magazine/20100321-soliders-bedrooms-slideshow.html?_r=0



Feh, The American Civil war camps were just as bad as Nazi camps. Looking at photos of war prisoners from that era

[Meh]

I'm wondering why dzhokhar tsarnaev is still alive and how much it is costing to keep him alive.

I'm also wondering how much effort/money is being spent on retrieving the Yazidi children and women who were sold as sex slaves.

Somehow I get the feeling we are spending more money to give "dzhokhar tsarnaev" a fair trial than we are to assist victims of slavery.  


and the Ebola situation that we are sending military troops in to work on

Excerpt from a news article http://www.wcpo.com/decodedc/us-troops-fighting-ebola-in-africa-also-must-battle-local-suspicions-and-their-own-fears

"Maj. Gen. Daryl Williams, commander of U.S. Army Africa, says no decision has been made about whether troops returning from Africa would be quarantined. He said health officials in the Pentagon and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention were discussing what kind of health protocols might be put in place when troops do come home."

They have no plans of how they are actually going to manage that situation.....   maybe they don't expect the troops to make it home at all

The rational thing to do is not grant Visas for people until they pay for their own Ebola testing before coming inside the USA. AND send some financial support to volunteer health workers who want to go treat Ebola victims.

Especially when the population will not follow health instructions on how to avoid infection and a population that is KILLING health workers...

The world is a stupid place.

[Hopalong]

I hear you, Boat.
I've taken to reading "happy news" sites online, because there's only so much
world anguish one can soak in.

I know it's going on and am drawn back, but for times...I just stop it.
Makes any dark/sad mood worse, after a while.

xo
Hops

[Meh]

Source was a Stanford blog but original writer name not found>


 In general, institutions use torture to “increase the illusion of the invulnerability of the regime” (Spitz 5/17/1989);



There is also a possible relationship with torture and other mental disorders, such as depression, paranoia and anxiety. Some of the categories that have emerged in an attempt to standardize the mental effects of torture include: anxiety symptoms, behavior, cognition/memory/attention, energy, form and amount of thought, speech, mood/affect disturbance, occupational and social impairment, perceptual disturbance, personality traits, physical signs and symptoms, sleep disturbances and sexual dysfunction (Basoglu 60). Studies have also shown that the mental effects of torture can extend to the children and spouse of the victim. A study of 75 Chilean children of torture victims living in Denmark showed that more than one third suffered anxiety, insomnia, nightmares and where hypersensitive to noise (Basoglu 64).