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October

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Has anyone learned how to celebrate your birthday?
« Reply #15 on: March 14, 2005, 02:57:24 PM »
Well, rather weird looking.  Any suggestions for improving the strings???

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« Reply #16 on: March 14, 2005, 03:04:53 PM »
Hello chutzbagirl,

Why does your mom have contempt for your faith? Does it compete with her for attention or did it give you the strength to seperate yourself from her?
My brother frequently ridicules my faith in an attempt to belittle me. He even threatened to sue my church, which is incomprehensible to me as no one there even knows him or is connected to him in any conceivable way.
I suspect Ns are incapable of true faith and therefore it is just another human behavior they envy and or despise.

Greta,
My wife and I often give each other B&B type birthday gifts. They are wonderful. They can be in addition to normal birthday celebrations (if you have any normal family to share them with.) What about your husbands family? My wife's family has filled in quite nicely for the enablers and chickens on my side of the blood lines.

mudpuppy

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« Reply #17 on: March 14, 2005, 03:19:42 PM »
Gosh, I feel so bad for those of you (so many) who grew up without the BIG DAY each year.  Chutzpah, I am happy you have some (chutzpah)!  Good for you!
 My parents had nine kids, but our birthdays were done up big time.  WE were the star (which is tough with so many kids around).
When I "grew up" I was surprised and always dissapointed at birthday time.  My (both) exN husbands had NO clue how to make a birthday special for someone.  I was usually angry and hurt all day.  My kid's dad would usually buy me extravagant presents (to smokescreen affairs, I later found out) but then treat me so badly, I would cry all day.
My second husband just didn't care at all.  Not at all...we'd go get a drink (for him, really) or maybe to dinner, but mostly last minute.
Now I am the one who reminds my children. ... I make sure they have a way to purchase or make me presents.  At first it felt weird, but they felt sooo bad when they would realize they had nothing for me.  It's a single parenting strategy... one of many to keep the home happy.
And, of course, I am the one who helps them remember their idiot dad's birthday and helps them get him a present....(not his current wife, imagine!)  I do this not to make him feel good, but to make them feel good.

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« Reply #18 on: March 14, 2005, 05:31:54 PM »
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Short strings, but what the heck.

chutzbagirl - Reply

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Great balloons!!
« Reply #19 on: March 14, 2005, 07:14:26 PM »
The balloons are too cute!   :)  It's amazing how just being understood and encouraged can really lift my spirits.  I had a "temper tantrum" in counseling and am now acually looking forward to my b-day.  Can't even imagine trying to get well on my own.  

My husband has come a long way and is being very sweet by ordering a cake and stepping out of his comfort zone.  At the same time, I am no longer expecting him to read my mind and hating him for failing to be a psychic.  

Someone (sorry I forgot to look at the name) asked me why my Mom is so disprespectful of my faith.  I think the answer to that is my faith is threatening to her and causes her to look at her destructive choices and dishonesty, which she is completely incapable of doing.

This is a great message board -  I'm so glad to have found it!

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« Reply #20 on: March 14, 2005, 08:29:49 PM »
mum wrote,

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I would cry all day.


There are so many people in this world in need of a good sound beating, it staggers the imagination. :evil:  :evil:  :evil:  Where should we start? :twisted:
((((mum)))))
How do you get lower than making your wife cry her entire birthday?

Chutzba wrote,
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At the same time, I am no longer expecting him to read my mind and hating him for failing to be a psychic.


Women are so smart, I have a hard time understanding why it takes you guys so long to figure out we men are basically dimwitted cud chewing beasts of the field.
I can't read my wifes mind when she tells me what she's thinking! I can't even read my own. :shock:
Happy Birthday everybody! :D

mudpuppy

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« Reply #21 on: March 14, 2005, 09:01:11 PM »
Mudpuppy: yes, a good beating. I will lead you to him!
On the up side: I now have a guy who does birthdays like I do!
And yeah, women are smarter than men. :P

Anonymous

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« Reply #22 on: March 14, 2005, 09:40:29 PM »
mum wrote,
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And yeah, women are smarter than men.  
 


Just to prove your point, no matter how many times I use this board I NEVER remember to just click on the page number to go to the last page; I always click on the topic, wait for the first page to come up, and then have to click on the last page number to get to the latest post. Is anyone else this slow? :?
They need an emoticon with a dunce cap for some of us I think.

mud

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« Reply #23 on: March 16, 2005, 06:50:17 AM »
It is today? Happy Birthday chutzbagirl!

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« Reply #24 on: March 16, 2005, 06:57:51 AM »
Quote from: Anonymous
It is today? Happy Birthday chutzbagirl!


Excellent!!!!!  Happy Birthday.  When can we cut the cake and sing?????

<feeling rather peckish!!!!>

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« Reply #25 on: March 16, 2005, 09:10:17 AM »
I can't sing but where's the cake?
Happy Birthday dear Chutzbagirl!

Stormchild Guesting

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« Reply #26 on: March 16, 2005, 09:30:11 AM »
Happy Birthday to You
Happy Birthday to You
Happy Birthday Dear Chutzbagirl
Happy Birthday to You

N's are all full of poo,
Yes we all know it's true,
May this new year bring healing
And some real joy to you!

(((Chutzbagirl)))

Stormchild

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« Reply #27 on: March 16, 2005, 09:51:43 AM »
Happy Birthday, Chutzbagirl!

*holding plate, waiting for you to cut your cake!*

I am a little late coming into this thread, but luckily, did not miss your birthday today!!  Hope you have a wonderful day,  the sun is shining gloriously where I live, and I hope it is shining where you live as well.  

May this be the start of a very good year (and good future)  for you!

Celebrating with you today!!  Woohooo, I just popped a balloon!!
NewDay

October

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« Reply #28 on: March 16, 2005, 09:54:16 AM »
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Celebrating with you today!!  Woohooo, I just popped a balloon!!
NewDay




Take the parcel, take off a layer, and tell us what is inside.  Then pass it on.    :lol:

<Starts music playing>

<Hands massive great parcel to next person along>

<Music stops>

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« Reply #29 on: March 16, 2005, 10:28:13 AM »
:D You all are too sweet!!  Thanks for your good wishes.  Thoughtful people are wonderful!

I just woke up and so far so good - just a little bit of heart heaviness.  Hopefully this will be a good day.  I'm meeting my Al Anon sponsor for breakfast - I asked for what I needed!  Then I'll do a little shopping and spend some time alone before the kids come home.  

Supposibly the healthier we become the more able we are to feel/experience our pain and heal.  Hmm, I will never be one of those types that looks forward to pain (that would be a masochist) but I guess it's a good sign that I'm able to feel the grief of being raised by a N Mom and a couple of alcoholic Dad's.  

I am going to take good care of myself today and see what my God does...

Thanks again - I hope you all have a wonderful day as well :!: