My mother decided that I would be a tomboy. No long hair for me, no dresses, and I was tought there was something inherently bad about the colour pink! When my cousin gave me some of her old romantic comic books, my mother threw them away.
She has loved my abusive boyfriends and gotten angry with me when I broke up with them.
When my sister broke up with her (Nish) ex, let's call him G, b/c she found out that he had cheated on her five or six times, my mother went on and on to me about poor G, how cruel my sister was for letting her stupid morals get in the way, and so on. On three separate occasions I raged at her when she started this, told her that she should be on her daughters side, that G was the one who had done something wrong and would have to face the consequenses for his behaviour and so on. After the third time my mother admitted that maybe I had a point! But I seriously believe she only said this to shut me up.
She is a teacher but only ever talks about her male students. I brought this up with her once, and in a very casual, matter-of-fact voice said that maybe she should have hed sons instead of daughters? My mother says that yes, maybe she should have, not giving any thought to me, her daughter, or my feelings.
On the other hand she claims that she is a feminist, was very proud of never ironing her husbands shirts when she was married, and claim that all men of her generation are hopeless!
Maybe it's because she hates herself? And she is a woman? Does anyone else have these strange experiences with always rooting for the opposite gender?
