Hi Joey --
Lots of folks here have touched on the honor thy parents theme, but since it's from the OT, I thought I'd follow up with something from the NT. I don't know your faith background (if I missed it in a post I apologize) but hopefully this will help - and I'm not trying to evangelize you; I promise. I just wanted to respond in the same spiritual context as that in which this issue is so often set:
First - per some of the gospel writings, JC himself said, "who among you, if your child asks for bread, would give him a stone? or if your child asks you for a fish, would give him a snake? Therefore if you, being imperfect, yet know how to give your children good things, so does your Father in Heaven know how to give His children good things."
Everybody looks at this in terms of what JC is saying about God. Look instead at what he is implying about good parenting! He's basically saying that it is unthinkable - UNTHINKABLE! - for a parent to respond to a child's authentic needs with cruelty, with evil, with destructive harm.
This is the same guy who did things, according to gospel reports, like healing a sick man on Shabbat, and gleaning on Shabbat as he and his ancient yeshiva

were crossing a field, and hungry; and when criticized about this, asserted that Shabbat was created for man, not vice versa. Again, he's saying that human needs are respected and honored -- by GOD.
Later, in the epistles, Paul points out that parents should not exasperate their children. He's said something about children respecting parents just before. Remember, Paul was an extremely learned Talmudic scholar... so his interpretation wouldn't be off the wall, here. He's pointing out, very clearly, that it is supposed to go both ways.
That's it for the ecumenical Christian seminar

. The point I wanted to make is pretty clear in these bits... that business about honoring your parents was not intended to give parents carte blanche to abuse their kids.
Sometimes, all you can do is honor the intended relationship, by refusing to participate in a travesty of it. This hurts like crazy, but there's another bit - in Psalm 27 - "For my father and my mother have forsaken me, but the Lord will take me up."
Again, I'm not intending to evangelize. This is my faith tradition, and the point of faith is to comfort and encourage and so forth. Years ago I realized that I had a lot of nerve calling myself a Christian when I hadn't even read the Christian scriptures through. So I did, Genesis to Revelation, and I find there is comfort and encouragement in them in ways that are quite different than a lot of folks suppose. Such as the above. So I hope this helps. It is rather different than what one normally expects, isn't it?
((((Joey))))
Stormchild