Dreams anyone?

[Brigid]

I can't think of the name of it either, but a portion of it was filmed on a farm owned by the best man at our wedding (can't really call him a friend anymore ).  I know the story took place in Iowa.  My kids saw it, but I never did.

Brigid

[Anonymous]

Hey Brigid!

I remember now....the beautiful country side!!!  The small towns and so many farms!!

I was there....in Iowa once.  It was so lovely.  Felt right at home.  Had a wonderful time searching through the Antique barns!  Bought a small war time glass bowl for $3 (US).  Great deal!  Saw one up here, not long after, exactly like it, priced at $35.

Iowa.  Tall corn fields.  Combines in the fields.  Welcoming towns.  Friendly people.  No wonder they picked that place for that movie!

 

GFN

[Bliz]

Had several vivd dreams about the  ex last night so had to get that out.
In first dream he had come home from somewhere, probably out partying,  and I felt that excitement of "he is back".  It was his younger, thinner self, I fell in love with so that was kind of a thrill.

The next dream I believe he was again coming back from being out partying.  HE was acting kind of weird and had all these big dogs with him.  He was buying new clothes and showing them to me.  I believe we were staying at some hotel somewhere.  It finally dawned on me, in the dream, that he may have used again.  I asked him in the dream and he said he had.   The I remember kind of driving around with the dogs and he in a truck.  NOt sure what we are doing but I think trying to hide the fact he had used again and maybe looking for help for him.  

It is weird to have such vivid dreams of him out of nowhere.  Havent seen him in over a year or talked to him in about 6 months. NO desire to do either.  Interpretations?

[Anonymous]

Hi Bliz:

I'm probably the worst dream interpreter here and I can't think of much right now to say about your dreams.    Sorry.

It is strange that after being separated from people for a period of time, we suddenly start dreaming about them, isn't it?  We must be thinking about that person some place inside our heads, even if we're not aware of it.

Are there any significant dates around now...his birthday, your x-wedding anniversary, date you moved perhaps?  I sometimes wonder if those dates don't just instigate these kinds of dreams because we used to always pay attention to them?

Hope you have many more pleasant dreams to come, Bliz.

Sorry I'm not much help here.

GFN

[October]

It is weird to have such vivid dreams of him out of nowhere.  Havent seen him in over a year or talked to him in about 6 months. NO desire to do either.  Interpretations?

First thing I would say is the usual one: imo, the dreams you have are not 'about' your ex, they are about you.  

The next thing is that both times, what happens centres around the ex (which is why it is easy to think the dream is about him), and everything relates to him and what he is doing.  This may well reflect your life together.  (Certainly it would describe the way I related to my ex; he kept his life and his hobbies, I became 'his' wife.  Years later, I am still trying to find who I am, when not in relation to anyone else. )

In the first dream, he is having a good time, while you are waiting around for him. He has been to a party; you are just happy to see him return.  Not a very equal balance.    He is younger, so perhaps this is a summary kind of dream.  Early days; waiting around.  Happy to see him.  No life for you apart from that.

In the second part again he has been having a life; you have been waiting.  He has been to a party, bought clothes, found some pets (girls??), and some stuff.  Maybe this is about later, when you turned from the person who happily waited at home for him into the person who tried to rescue him.

I am not sure what the purpose of the dream is.  It is difficult to find you in it at all, because all your focus is outside yourself; you appear to be defined by what you are doing for him.  

I have lots of dreams at present about a 'friend' of mine who is very unavailable.  He has been a very great emotional support in the past, but now is very busy and more often unavailable than not.  I spend many dreams trying to find him or watching from a distance as he disappears somewhere.  Thinking about it, I have had these for months, possibly years.  Endlessly searching for the person who is never found.  And in real life, I am slowly learning not to rely on him, to accept who he is, but look for support elsewhere, from people who do not let me down.

Maybe, looking at yours in the same way, the dream is holding up a mirror to your life.  Are you doing these same things with someone else, but not yet realising it?  Are you defining yourself by another person, and waiting around for them?  Or maybe it is just a reminder of what was, as a kind of 'well done for escaping all of that.'

Sorry if these questions are too personal.  Just thoughts, really.  

[Bliz]

Hi October,
Thanks for taking the time to interpret my dream.  it is an interesting take.  I was going back today to the feelings I had during the dream and it was mostly, "he is sick", "needs help".  My life has always been fairly independent and self directed so I am not sure I had the feeling of waiting around to have a life.  I think mostly there was a sense of we are together, our family unit is one and then that the unit is broked again due to his behavior.  

It may be a reaffirming dream about what I already know in daylight.  Knowing what I know now about substance abuse, emotional abuse, narcissism etc, hs given me a new take on him and possibly that is why I dream about him being ill.  I used to have fun adventure dreams about him and us and now it is mostly he looks bad or needs help.  Maybe trying to work it out emotinally in my dreams.  

I am sure part of me longs for the old him when he was more fun loving and less disturbed. Maybe this is reaffirming that person is gone if they ever existed. It took me a few days to come to this concept.

[Anonymous]

Hi all:

Here's a short and silly one.

First......I was flying.  Like a glider, with my arms straight out sideways, legs straight out behind me, dipping and diving, any way/direction I wanted, up down, in and around mountains and towns and forrests and cities.  Big smile on my face.  It was exhilerating and fun!!!  Zooom zip flip weeeee!!!

Then....I was varnishing everything.  Had a little bottomless can full of spar-varnish (marine varnish) and a 2 inch brush.  Slapping it on everything in sight. Slip slap dip dap ......fun again!!!  Everything was soooooo shiney!!  Time of my life!!!  

Besides weird and fun.....I wonder what it means?  I haven't a clue.

GFN

[longtire]

Since moving out only a week and a half ago and not needing the sleeping pills any longer, I have already had 2 nights where I dreamed.  I don't remember the first night's dreams, but do remember a bit of last night's.  I believe that my starting to dream again after such a long time is a very positive sign and I have been hoping that it would happen with this separation.  

OK, I was in a garage with the garage door open.  There were 2 giant piles of popcorn, one plain white, the other yellow w/ butter.  Another guy (kinda vague) and I were taking turns sledding down the piles of popcorn out into the driveway and having a good time.

After a while, that garage changed to a room that for some reason reminded me of a room in a college Union building.  There were a lot of people coming and going.  Some there studying, some talking in small groups of two or three people.  There was a variety of furniture and some small displays with recruiting information, local happenings, local artists, etc. on some of the tables.  I was standing near the middle of the room looking over the top of one of the displays toward a set of doors waiting.  I'm not sure what I was waiting for in the dream.

Any ideas?  These have me stumped.

[Anonymous]

Hi Long:

Ok.......I'll give it a shot (and by the way....I agree....I think your beginning to remember dreams again is probably a very positive thing).

So....the garage is you and the door is open....a big part of you is now open.  Maybe you felt very closed up before and now that you're starting this new life....you feel open to all kinds of stuff.....and especially....a brighter future!

The two piles of popcorn....one white....one yellow.....could be two different avenues your life could have taken....one pure...one covered in butter.  The two guys.....you and some vague guy....might actually be two parts of yourself......the white, pure part, and the vague, butter-coloured side of you.  No matter.......both parts/sides are sliding down the soft, fluffy avenues....enjoying themselves....and just being happy in the moment.   Maybe this is how you want your emotions/life to go.....how you envision it will go....how you hope it will go....how you will work toward making it go??  Also....rather than seeing everything as hard and flat, you are seeing it as light, fluffy, hilly and  fun.  A good way to embark on the next phase, maybe?

Then......the garage....you ......turns/turn into a big room, full of activity, displays, items, people, and there you are standing and looking at the door, waiting.  Maybe you're waiting for all of your ideas, new activities, creativity, new events/experiences....to become a real part of your new life (or maybe you fear it will all leave....go out the door....at some point?).
A little bit of very latent fear...surfacing possibly?  Somehow you feel you can build this new, rewarding, enjoyable life but you don't trust that it will remain with you??

And maybe I'm daft???   Only you will know if this makes any sense to you.

Take care, Longtire!!  I hope your life is beginning to fill up with fun things and nice events and good people and comforts!!  

GFN

[d'smom]

OK, I was in a garage with the garage door open.  There were 2 giant piles of popcorn, one plain white, the other yellow w/ butter.  Another guy (kinda vague) and I were taking turns sledding down the piles of popcorn out into the driveway and having a good time.

After a while, that garage changed to a room that for some reason reminded me of a room in a college Union building.  There were a lot of people coming and going.  Some there studying, some talking in small groups of two or three people.  There was a variety of furniture and some small displays with recruiting information, local happenings, local artists, etc. on some of the tables.  I was standing near the middle of the room looking over the top of one of the displays toward a set of doors waiting.  I'm not sure what I was waiting for in the dream.

yay, dreams :} they sound like good dreams.

it reminds me...... you are in the garage.. maybe you are feeling a little 'out of the main house' right now, your still getting used to the idea of not being 'in the main house' as you usually are.... you are kind of 'out with the boys' sort of playing and enjoying yourself a little more. i see the popcorn as an image of fun, and youth, and also options, because there are different flavors available.

the other reason i think about youth and starting over is the reference to university. you may be thinking back to a time when you were starting out in life away from home the first time.. like the first time away at school or college.

what are you waiting for.... your new life. the next phase. what will happen next. hopefully something playful and enjoyable. it sounds like it is. could be lots of things though of course. just some ideas.

btw longtire, im also an INTP. less than 7% of the population supposedly.
hope things are going really well there -
anna

[miaxo]

My younger brother (by two years) called me three days ago and told me he had a very disturbing dream about me.  He dreamt that I was murdered.  He said he woke up and when he fell back to sleep he kept dreaming it.  I told him to feel free to not dream about me anymore.  

He called b/c he wanted to make sure I was OK since his dream seemed so real.  Needless to say his dream creeped me out.

Hopefully being murdered in someone else's dream is symbolic of something that DOES NOT include blood shed.

Mia

[Anonymous]

Wow anna and GFN, you are good!  All the things you say ring true to me.  I guess its been a while since I had a dream that I remembered.  I'm rusty on interpreting.  I also got another connections, the two guys and two piles of popcorn also represent the innocent (white) me and the sadder but wiser, protective (yellow) me.  There was a sense throught that everything was OK, no pressure and no impatience.  That's how I have been feeling in waking life as well.

[longtire]

That last post was me but timed out.

[Anonymous]

Hi all:

Here's a short and silly one.

First......I was flying.  Like a glider, with my arms straight out sideways, legs straight out behind me, dipping and diving, any way/direction I wanted, up down, in and around mountains and towns and forrests and cities.  Big smile on my face.  It was exhilerating and fun!!!  Zooom zip flip weeeee!!!

Then....I was varnishing everything.  Had a little bottomless can full of spar-varnish (marine varnish) and a 2 inch brush.  Slapping it on everything in sight. Slip slap dip dap ......fun again!!!  Everything was soooooo shiney!!  Time of my life!!!  

Besides weird and fun.....I wonder what it means?  I haven't a clue.

GFN

'Flying' is often associated with sex!!!!!

I'm not even going to try to explain the varnish....

[Anonymous]

I had an ongoing dream that my husband decided that he could drink anytime he wanted to and that the whole idea of recovering was bogus and that he had made his choice and to hell with how I felt about it.  I had that dream repeatedly over the last couple of years and then it really happened.

I think that I dreamed that because I was always afraid of something like that happening.  I never believed that it would, but it was always a looming fear in the back of my head, I suppose.  The dream started when in spite of my discomfort with him working with the woman he eventually moved in with, he went ahead and did what he wanted anyway.  He was completely indifferent to how I felt about them working together which was not his normal behaviour and maybe that set the buzzers off in my subconscious.