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bunny:
Your sister needs appropriate help. The shrink she has been seeing, or saw, isn't competent enough. There is help for people who have been traumatized and abused, but the person or family has to find the best professional for the job.

Anonymous:
I agree with Bunny. More competent help is necessary. The therapist might also encourage AA, NA(whatever may be applicable).

Anonymous:

--- Quote from: Anonymous ---Hey there,

I wish I could take the person who did this to her and throttle her, but that still won't bring my sister back. Why are some people so awful?

sister
--- End quote ---


Sister:  It sounds like you all might know what happened to her? I'm kinda confused around that point.

If you all do, then finding a therapist that is very used to working with people that have gone through the same thing, might be a good idea.

Explore:
You sound to me like you know precisely what happened and is happening to your sister.
It's not good enough to voice your dissatisfaction with the way she is behaving now.  Your post is full of blame, blame the new boyfriend, just plain saying she's "lost it" is extremely invalidating.
You say "SHE" is your sister..unless you lived in different houses with different parents, your shared time with her puts you in a much better position than any of us to at least venture to speculate on what caused this change in her.
Could you risk starting again please because your post just sounds like your sisters present state of mind is "bugging you", cramping your style, in the way of "you".  If you want me to agree with you that your sister has a problem i'm willing to do that, but why..that is the question.
Explore

Anonymous:
My sister and I grew up apart (I was fostered) and there's a big age gap between us. Like I said, she's always been pretty demanding, but now what she's doing is downright dangerous. She's not working, not living where she says she is and she blows off all advice to seek help/treatment. She's not " bugging"  me - I'm worried about her. She used to be so alive and full of plans, but now she's slipping further and further into some kind of twilight zone " reality"  in which she takes no responsibility for her actions whatsoever. Like I said, I know abuse exists, I know N's are evil and cause tremendous damage, but my sister right now is damaging herself and others and all under the cover of massive denial! I want my sister back for her own sake as well as ours, but nothing I say can make her see sense!

Sister

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