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Nike:
I think all that happened over there was just one major clusterfuck to where some people that were already sensitive got their feelings very hurt. Problems can be worked out!!
I've belonged to that board for a very long time and I have never had a problem with being able to say anything that i wanted and I pretty much speak my mind. That board , including Sandahl, has helped me alot, I dont think I would be where I am in my recovery if it werent for them all.
So, all in all, no matter what was even said, work this out and come back home, ok? We miss you all.... :cry:
hope2003:
I can't work it out because I can't post. If you think that I am going to beg her for forgiveness you are wrong. Sandahl was in the wrong, and needs to admit such.
I would love to come back. I would love to tell you what she said to us "have a nice life" the board is not up for a vote. If you PM me, I can send you what Sandahl had to say, and you can be the Judge and jury. I have no problem with that.
Mindy came on strong on the board and off, but my public posts were not a problem. Sandahl could have politely said that she was offended and dealt with it accordingly. But, she erased the whole thread. the momentum was in my favor, and she put it to a stop.
Don't enable this woman. Let the other members know what she did.
Would AA toss somebody out for a disagreement. She doesn't care about healing, she cares about her own agenda.
I agree with Mindy that she acted like an N. It is a shame that you can't look at the facts for yourself since Sandahl erased the evidence.
Yes we are sensitive, many of us have been abused. But, that is no excuse to not allow a discussion. Read what she says. we can come back after we calm down. How about she calming down. So she gets to be the gatekeeper?
hope2003:
by the way, she is exercising information control by trying to get the other members to support her and feel bad for her without knowing what happened.
Nike:
Youre right, I dont know what happened but I did manage to read a few of the posts before they were deleted and it didnt sound like much, atleast not what I read. I"m not saying that it didnt get bad, I just didnt see it I suppose.
Wasnt it about Herm leaving? What I really dont get here is what that has to do with us? I mean I know I will be affected because Herm was very helpful but what goes on between her and Sandahl is their business, not mine. I dont think that's enabling Sandahl as much as respecting Herms wishes for privacy...what do you think?
If you didnt get anything from or like that board then no, I dont think you should apologize but if you do and if you ever DID then I think EVERYONE should apologize, Sandahl included. I do think there should be more of an explanation of why things were deleted but she IS the gatekeeper/manager of that board and who knows what reasons she had. I do wish she would explain ,maybe she will when things calm down a bit.
I just dont know her to be an Ogre of anykind and even though you two think she is acting like an N doesnt mean she IS an N, we all act N'ish from time to time, remember? That was one of our posts!
hope2003:
I am able to talk to Herm directly. Herm did not like the way that Sandahl responded to her on a thread. Perhaps herm was a little too sensitive, but I don't think it was about her privacy. As I said on my thread, Sandahl should have left the goodbye for at least 24 hours so that if Herm was lurking, she could have the chance to see how much she is wanted and valued. I was trying to avoid hard feelings. Herm deleted within a few hours.
Once again, I can't get on the board to say anything, and I refuse to grovel with Sandahl privately. She is acting like an ass. Period.
Other members need to put the pressure on her to come to us and rethink her position. Actually, if you read her thread, a couple of members have tried to do just that, but she is being stubborn.
Again, she told both me and Mindy to "have a nice life" The fact that she manages the board shouldn't give her the right to delete threads and posts that are helpful to the majority. The members should have some vote. She literally told me that the board was not up for a vote.
The board really helped me. There are many caring people. Even Sandahl has helpful words, but frankly, Hermione was more helpful, as were others.
On this board, we are able to have a open discussion. Why can't we do that on the N partners board? Because there is a dictator who couldn't handle a little criticism which began as polite, and admittedly got nasty in private.
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