Great List of Narcissistic behavior

[annabelle]

Great list Jaded, - thank you!  Like you, I found almost everything if not everything on the list applies to my husband.  Amazing how there can be so much wrong!

Someone mentioned, I forget who, introducing a sentence with, "In my opinion........." - that this was passive, etc.  Good point.  With regard to the opposite, an aggressive N, (one perhaps, such as my husband), might often conclude a sentence with, "You know what I mean?"  This almost forces you to agree with the sentence, whatever it stated.  I may be getting ridiculous here but, the "you know what I mean?" to Ns is just another form of coercion.  I mean, this is a rhetorical question and what else would you reply but yes - no?

annabelle

[Jaded911]

Annabelle,

I was sitting here thinking how my xN usually began his sentences.  It is unbelievable when I thought about it.  His usually begin with "I told YOU"  or "AS I SAID" .  I do not even have to explain this one folks.

H  E  L  L  O, what told me that was bahavior that I should tolerate.  Seriously, I really compare how I felt like being brain washed.  I used to wonder how people could get pulled into a cult.  I wonder if it is because they finally let go of reality and gave into their brain washers commands and falst information.  

I was at the breaking point a few times, I just could never seem to force myself over that fine line between reality and lala land.  He tried his damndest to woo me over the line, I knew deep down not to cross that fine line.  Gave me a little chance to begin recovery and its getting stronger every day. It will for you too, you have to believe in yourself Annabelle.

[annabelle]

(I'm writing this post again because I don't know where in cyberspace my original posted reply to this topic went - I just posted it 10 minutes ago - anyway.........)

Great list, Jaded - thanks.  Like you, almost everything on the list, if not everything, is applicable to my husband.  Amazing how so much could be wrong!

Someone mentioned (I forget who) how introducing a sentence with "In my opinion......" is passive.  On the other end, an N (perhaps, oh, someone like my husband) may often conclude a sentence with, "You know what I mean?"  I may be getting ridiculous here, but this is an aggressive way to gain compliance and validation no matter what was said in the sentence.  I mean, this is a rhetorical question - who's going to say "No" to "You know what I mean?" rather, we are forced to say yes, thus to agree with whatever was said by the N.


o.k. bedtime.  Goodnight all.

Annabelle