narcissitic family

[guestfirsttime]

Hi,  

I read all the posts and felt very heartend with all the comments.  Like I said before this is very hard for me.  Let me explain a little at a time.

I just found out that my mother is a N, so is my brother and two sisters.  I often wondered why they thought and acted so differently than I do.  It was always like "who are you People?  They only one I trust is the my younger brother.  I don't want to give out to much information in case someone might read this.  

Well,  I read the book "Children of the Self Absorbed"  and it was like an awakening.  I now get it,  mom is an N and my siblings are too!!!

The disfunction in my family is unbelievable.  We cannot be in the same room without all hell breaking out (I often wondered why this was)  So many opinions and everyone is the only one that is right.  

The meaness and cruelty from my mother was constant,  she prided herself in being a mean woman.  Very dominating and  could be very cruel and sarcastic, I could never do anything right.  When you hug her it's like huging a board, a kiss is nothing.  She never kisses back or hugs back.  Since I read the book, I don't hug or kiss her anymore and she doesn't even notice the difference.

Enough for this time.  I could go on for days.

Guestfirsttime

[cosmic joe]

talk about terrible stuff to a kid
..have u ever heard of book
A CHILD CALLED IT

i forget the author but on the oprah show
i remember him saying when the outrageousness
of the narcissitic parent or the upgrade the psychopathic
or antisocial or sadist parent...
is not so obvious
then it might even be harder to break free
as it is even harder to convince self
of the depth of the degradation of spirit
let alone convince others
..where the is abuse or oddness is not as blatant
and the narcissist is one whose self image
 is how wise and considerate and long suffering they are
and actually may have done a lot of positive things
but when they do not achieve the status they
\feel due for all their effort
and something happens where
if no one is going to make happen
their sense of receiving their due
.......they as if still caring
and thinking they are
,
more undermine the others sense of worth
than aid it.