Daughter's health

[October]

Didn't know where else to put this one.  David rang tonight.  He has skin cancer 'just about everywhere' and also a brain tumour.

Not a great deal to say after that, really.  C is very upset.  I am not lying to her; she asked if her dad is going to die, and I said I think so.   She asked when and I said I don't know.

I am not sure that David himself has any idea how serious this is.  I tried to be gentle, but to say I think this is serious, but he is not ready to hear it.  

Prayers much needed.  Kyrie eleison.

[Plucky]

Hello October,
I know you must be just reeling with all that is happening. I just sent up a prayer for you and your daughter to have the strength to deal with all that you have on your plate and still be able to come out healthy and pursue the happiness that you deserve.  

Keep strong your ability to see this through, but allow yourself to feel the hurt, don't keep it in.  I am at a loss what to say, I guess you are also.  We are here for you, don't forget that.  Sending waves of support to you,
Plucky

[October]

allow yourself to feel the hurt, don't keep it in.  I am at a loss what to say, I guess you are also.  We are here for you, don't forget that.  Sending waves of support to you,
Plucky

If I knew how to feel, I would do as you say.  I cannot feel anything.  One layer of cotton wool on top of another, until all that is left is a shadow, fighting other shadows.

I knew when we saw David in whenever it was - May? - that there was something wrong in his head.  Nobody (by which I suppose I mean his family) wanted to listen.  The doctors must have listened because I asked them to give him a brain scan and they did.

How to tell you are not N.  When you are proved right, and it doesn't feel like a victory, but a defeat.  Somewhere, someone is crying.  I think the angels have to do it for me.  

Cassandra again.

I told David to make sure he writes his will (I gave him the forms last time we saw him) and to write letters for Charlie for different times in the future.  I said if he is still around, he can give them to her himself.  If not, I will give them to her.  He says he will do this.

Any other similar suggestions gratefully received.  Trying to find a path.

[Brigid]

October,
I'm very sorry for this very sad situation that has been added to your already difficult life.  

The letters are a very good idea--for graduations, wedding, birth of a grandchild, etc.  If he still looks relatively good, maybe someone could videotape some messages from him to her.  A woman I know who died way too young had purchased some small gifts for birthdays, Christmas and other important days for her children, wrapped them and attached cards.  This is probably wayyyy to much for a man to consider doing and possibly not affordable, but maybe a few small, meaningful things (i.e. a charm bracelet with charms that could be added on important days) he could leave with you.

That's all I can think of for now.

((((((((October & C)))))))))))))))

Blessings,

Brigid

[October]

This is probably wayyyy to much for a man to consider doing and possibly not affordable, but maybe a few small, meaningful things (i.e. a charm bracelet with charms that could be added on important days) he could leave with you.

Brigid

The charm bracelet is a brilliant idea.  Thanks Brigid.  

[Plucky as guest]

One thing I wish I had from my relatives who have passed on is the family history.  Can David record his family history as he knows it, stories about his childhood, his grandmothers, etc?  Would he have the energy to do that?  Could your daughter do it with him and spend time that way?
Plucky

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear about all of this October.  

Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

GFN

[October]

Sorry to hear about all of this October.  

Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

GFN

Thanks.  That means a lot to me.  

C.

[Stormchild]

Sorry to hear about all of this October.  

Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

GFN

Ditto, dear soul.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear about all of this October.  

Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

GFN

Me too.

daylily