Hi, All
I'm supposed to be attacking the mountain of work on my desk but find I can't get to it without a little vent first.
Just got off the horn with my younger bro, and NMom is now playing her sick tactics with him..again. It drives me up the wall as I still feel very protective of him, even though he's old enough to take care of himself (in his 20's). Bro wants to do a certain thing for the holidays, after being away from home for several years. This is something he's been planning for a while but NMom has railroaded the whole thing and totally ruined it by doing what she wants to do...like ruining his childhood wasn't enough she still has to ruin yet another holiday season. GRRRR!
Here's where I get a bit sad and a little frustrated. I've tried to share with him some info on narcissism but he totally shuts me down...doesn't want to know. His solution is to just take off somewhere and not face the issues. I totally understand where he's coming from, why he takes off, why he gets frustrated - the whole nine yards but, at the same time, I just wish I could help him find some peace.
Oh well, I just don't think there's anything more I can do for my brother other than what I've done, which has been to say, hey, here's what I think the problem is, the rest is up to you. Sigh!
BTW, while I'm having a little rant, in addition to my brother's latest episode with her, I think I'm on the banished list. I remember reading someone else's post about being the victim of a covert smear campaign (something she's an expert on in all facets). I just have this unsubstatiated whiff that this is what's going on with me now, which has started since I posed the concept of narcissism to another sibling - who also doesn't want to know about it. I don't care for the most part but I confess there is that little, tiny speck down in there that fumes. I've always been the heretic in the family with all my weird ideas about things (aka individualism!!! lol) but now I have a feeling I'm getting flushed - like in the movie the Matrix, when Neo gains awareness in the human energy plant and consequently gets jettisoned down some high-tech toilet full of pink goop.
The Matrix is real!!! The Matrix is real!!
I don't care what NMom does but I care for my siblings a great deal so if they decide to pull away from me, which is what I think is starting to happen, it's gonna hurt. There's nothing I can do about it though...their choice.
Thanks, all. Feel much better now. Uh, oh...that pile of work is still there. Rats!
Happy Thanksgiving and blessing to you all.
Rojo
