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Anonymous · « **Reply #15 on:** July 04, 2005, 08:26:36 PM »

Oh (((((((Plucky))))))).

Do you mean to say that IIIIIIIIIIIIII'm not enough???

You want moooore friends?????????

Puuuuuuullllllllease!!

Ok.

You can do that (meet more friends in the real world). I know you can. When you're ready you will! You're just busy right now dealing with other stuff.
Once you get out there and mingle a little, you'll be fine!!

GFN

jophil · « **Reply #16 on:** July 04, 2005, 10:51:27 PM »

This thread has opened up a concept for me that I had heard in the past but pushed to the sidelines as too 'cute' ..It is this," You don't always get what you ask for but you never get what you don't ask for."
Plucky had the 'pluck' to ask for what she wanted and the response was overwhelming..How courageous of her..Inspiring thread.

Johnimo

Plucky · « **Reply #17 on:** July 05, 2005, 01:08:54 AM »

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You certainly chose the right moniker. You are more "plucky" than you see yourself.

Thank you Guest52 for your warm thoughts. I cannot rightfully take credit for this name. I was perfectly happy going about as "Guest2". Finally someone pointed out that it was unimaginative and easily confused. When I changed my name to "Formerly Guest2", others took matters into their own hands.

Many diverse names were proposed: Amphibian Sheila, Daisy, and (!) Spunky among them. I was told I am Plucky and immediately liked being called that. So I was reborn on the board as the Pluckster. I also learned that this reminded someone of a hen. (Not a chicken.) While I suspect that this was really a confusion with 'Clucky' I nonetheless set directly to practice my strut.

On a serious note, think it is so appropriate that my boardfellows nudged me into a new name. Because the person I am here - open, trusting, testing the limits of my fear - did not exist in my 'real' world. And this person exists here because of all of you.

Well, I'd love to stay here and wet up my keyboard, but I need to go practice my 'Plucky Strut'. Anyone want to strut with me?

Stormchild · « **Reply #18 on:** July 07, 2005, 10:44:36 AM »

Quote from: Plucky on July 05, 2005, 01:08:54 AM

I was told I am Plucky and immediately liked being called that. So I was reborn on the board as the Pluckster. I also learned that this reminded someone of a hen. (Not a chicken.) While I suspect that this was really a confusion with 'Clucky' I nonetheless set directly to practice my strut.

On a serious note, think it is so appropriate that my boardfellows nudged me into a new name. Because the person I am here - open, trusting, testing the limits of my fear - did not exist in my 'real' world. And this person exists here because of all of you.

Well, I'd love to stay here and wet up my keyboard, but I need to go practice my 'Plucky Strut'. Anyone want to strut with me?

Hey Plucky, if you haven't seen "Chicken Run", rent it, rent it, rent it. You'll love it, especially if you're a fan of old movies, but you don't need to be to enjoy it. LOTS of plucky hens there.

chutzbagirl · « **Reply #19 on:** July 07, 2005, 01:27:16 PM »

Hi Plucky,

I don't believe we have met - my name is chutzbagirl. You started posting as I began taking a break.

I don't have many friends that live near me either at this point in my life. I am also jobless and churchless right now as well. July is the barest month in my calendar I have ever seen.

I had to detatch from N Mom, bro and other extended family members 1 1/2 years ago. I was in so much pain that my friends from normally dysfuctional families backed away. I really didn't care about the latest sales, girl's night out, or any other seemingly superficial activities. My H and I were going through some tough but healing changes as well.

Now, my heart and mind are more at peace. I coped with my childhood by learning to be busy, perform, achieve, work myself to death. This month feels very restful to me in an uncomfortable sort of way. I sense I'm coming to a place where I will not define myself by the insanity of my past or carry the shame of my M's behavior. Then I can just be me. I am beginning to have the interior energy to enjoy conversations and get to know new people. It feels weird to not be in intense grief. Last school year I felt as if I was shrouded (sp) by grief when I picked the kids up from school. Didn't want to do small talk with the other Moms.

Healing seems to come slowly for me. I am involved in Al Anon and that has helped immensely - as well as my counseling. I have two very special friends on this board.

I hope you are able to find some safe people in the real world as well as on this board. N's do more damage than we give them credit for.

Take care and nice to meet ya!

chutzbagirl

Stormchild · « **Reply #20 on:** July 09, 2005, 03:27:04 PM »

Hey Chutz,

Good to see you back!

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Sallying Forth · « **Reply #21 on:** July 09, 2005, 09:12:10 PM »

Hello Plucky,
I'm new here but not new to being friendless. I've gone through periods of my life with no one to call a friend.

This month I ended a long term dysfunctional relationship. My only wish is that I would have done it sooner.

She was abusive and controlling which only became apparent to me when I had more self awareness and trusted my intuition. I literally sang, "Ding dong the witch is dead," after I ended the relationship. And just like this woman, she continues to hold on even after I ended it. She's got to have the last word, got to be right, got to end it her way, ad nauseum! Her behavior is very much like my Nmother's was/is.

My goal is no relationships until I get through this rocky part of my healing. Then I will have my intuition more intact and be able to know whether someone is an okay friend.

I am parentless, friendless and churchless. It feels strange but somehow very right.

I do have my counselor and my husband (who's in therapy too), and that's all I want right now.

chutzbagirl · « **Reply #22 on:** July 10, 2005, 02:11:17 AM »

Hi ITexperiment,

Guess what my cell phone ring is??? 'Ding Dong the Witch is Dead'! My 10 year old daughter chose it for me and we downloaded it. I think it was a 'God thing' because she chose it shortly after I completely detatched from my N M. I chuckle every time it rings.

((((Stormy))))

Thanks

chutzbagirl

Jaded911 · « **Reply #23 on:** July 10, 2005, 12:00:57 PM »

I can relate to this thread, oh baby can I relate!

I have had and still have many friends. I just had a couple of letdowns that soured me. I decided I needed to weed out my garden and I freed myself of alot of grief by ridding the bad friends. I guess sometimes the ole giveth and taketh in a friendship doesnt mean the same to everyone. I had some friends over the years that giveth me grief and taketh no blame for it.

bunny · « **Reply #24 on:** July 10, 2005, 01:35:24 PM »

I am parentless, friendless and churchless. It feels strange but somehow very right.

You can cross off friendless. You have us now.

bunny

OR · « **Reply #25 on:** July 10, 2005, 06:18:40 PM »

Hey Plucky, wanted to chime in here too.

You will have dozens of friends here. We all feel alone at sometime, you are going through alot with your husband being overwhelmed with helplessness. You need to have the right friends, having more than 2 or 3 close friends could wear you thin.

Keep reaching out the right friends will come your way. Take Care ............OR

Sallying Forth · « **Reply #26 on:** July 10, 2005, 07:55:51 PM »

Quote from: bunny on July 10, 2005, 01:35:24 PM

I am parentless, friendless and churchless. It feels strange but somehow very right.

You can cross off friendless. You have us now.

bunny

Thank you bunny!

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