Hello Siblings,
I want to wish everyone a very Happy, and Sane Thanksgiving. 
I know that many of you will be trying to remain sane, in some very insane situations.
Chin up, shoulders back, deep breaths, and repeat to yourself as needed, "I will not feel guilty, I will not feel guilty."
God's best blessings on you!
Kate
Thanks so much Kate!
I hope you have a relatively sane Thanksgiving, also. The holidays are so hard, this is my first since mom passed away, sis and I are driving ourselves crazy doing what mom used to do with such ease, trying to make it a "normal" holiday (well, that would mean not inviting Ndad, because to him having all of us together as a captive audience is "N-heaven"!)
Ok, he just lost his wife, too - no, i mean he just lost his main supply, and the servant that waited on him hand and foot, his loyal subject, his main object of abuse). So I'm sure he'll be the life of the party - poor widower, now he has Alzheimer's, unfortunately he sometimes "fakes" some of the symptoms (for more supply)...the grandkids will be there for him to pick apart...I'm not recommending it as a cure-all, but I think a xanax might be in order before we leave (wish I could give him one or two or twelve, too).
But, we will all get thru it, and do the best we can, and afterward, we can celebrate our victories in getting thru it, even if they're small ones, because that's positive progress.
Please, everyone -no matter how it goes - be sure to remember the healthy ways you dealt with your Ns, not just the bad stuff. And I know that all of you will have some victories, because you're working hard and you really want to succeed.
So - Happy Thanksgiving to all - it's 5:20 a.m., and I just finished two cakes that were my mom's specialties (if they turn out badly, I think I'll go play in the middle of the highway!).
Try to get something good, something sane, out of your holiday. Whether you choose to do it without your Ns, or with them, you'll all have at least one success, probably more!
bobbie
