Thank you Stormy, Miss Piggy, and Brigid. I wrote that last night when I was just so shocked that this could happen but knowing very well that he is fully capable of making it happen. I assumed that I didn't have to list these things for a divorce decree until my attorney told me otherwise yesterday. I assumed that he might be somewhat normal but, obviously, was giving him the benefit of the doubt. I assumed he would maintain contact with our children when I divorced him but to him it was a package deal and he has cut off all contact with them. Fortunately they are 22, 22, and 23. (The kids tell me not to worry....they never had a relationship with him anyway). This is a no-fault but equitable State in which to divorce. The judge gave me slightly more than half. So this will be his way of getting even.
Admittedly, I am wallowing in self-pity and a lot of shock, actually. On the good side, I have my kids and my dogs. I have several very good friends near by. I have enough money that I'm not going to starve or go on the dole. I guess psychologically, this was the final moment that I really had to realize that he is truly mentally ill. Or, he he is just evil because he has the intelligence to know what he is doing and is doing it nevertheless. The law may be an "ass" but when you are conjoined with people such as my husband, it is the only alternative to dying young from stress or to be able to go on your way.
Thanks for listening. It's really good to finally be able to tell someone. Bittles and the three little bits.
