NPDs and their unusual eating habits

[October]

My mother hated her sisters (for good reason) but still, I wish she hadn't felt the need to dump on me through special treatment of the men.  I know she is not even slightly aware of her prejudice.  It just leaks out all over the place.  

MP

My mum did this too.  She resented her younger sisters, and she resented me ten times more.

She favoured my dad and brothers in serving out food.  She got the best, they got the most, and I got what was left over. 

However, at the same time, dad had it firmly fixed in his head that I was preferred by her and spoilt, and so he did what he could to counter this 'spoiling', by squashing me and encouraging the boys.  Which meant I got it from both sides.  Not sure where that one came from, except that Ns can make people think they are doing one thing, while actually doing the opposite.

[miss piggy]

Hi October,

it could just be that your dad has the female prejudice too, and rationalized it with that stupid madeup logic they seem to champion.  I was dumped on by an Nbro because he, too, was convinced that I was spoiled because I am the only girl. 

Truth is, he hated seeing anyone get anything.  It was all supposed to go to him. He is a very selfish person.  He probably resented my bras and underwear too.    He also needed reasons to just get on my case.  One of his favorite stories is telling people his reaction when I was brought home from the hospital: "what is IT?"  ha ha, so so funny. Not.  When I'm really feeling sorry for myself, I wonder if the reason my parents didn't have the five or six babies they said they wanted when they got married is because upon my birth they realized the possibility of having girls.  I brought those plans to an abrupt halt.  I really do think this occasionally.  Unfortunately. 

My brother has a need to know that mommy loves him and only him.  Once I had to point out it wasn't so, mom loves me too, and what would people think of a mother who loved only one of her children, and he looked shocked.  I could go on and on about mother and her little man.  A love story. 

MP

[Sallying Forth]

Hi October,

it could just be that your dad has the female prejudice too, and rationalized it with that stupid madeup logic they seem to champion.  I was dumped on by an Nbro because he, too, was convinced that I was spoiled because I am the only girl. 

Truth is, he hated seeing anyone get anything.  It was all supposed to go to him. He is a very selfish person. 

My brother has a need to know that mommy loves him and only him.  Once I had to point out it wasn't so, mom loves me too, and what would people think of a mother who loved only one of her children, and he looked shocked.  I could go on and on about mother and her little man.  A love story. 

MP

MP,
That sounds like my Nbrother too. I'm the only girl as well. My Nparents live behind my Nbrother. My Nmother lives her life through my Nbrother. Her little man? Never thought about it in that way. Interesting.

My H's sister is very much like your brother. When her Nmother was on her death bed she went into her house and started to take anything that wasn't nailed down. Everything had been given to the sister's own son but she didn't even want him to have it! She felt entitled to it all including the house!

[miss piggy]

Hi SF,

Omigod, the empty suitcase syndrome.  Ew.  It's so nakedly morbid and selfish and mean.  No scruples (do people still use that word?).  I mean, why show up at all?  Why not just stay away if one feels like that after someone dies?  Just move on.  I dunno.  I know my sil will be doing the same thing when the time comes.  She would steal candy from a baby.

MP