they shut you down

[amismax]

what do you do when those who need to listen want to(or have already) shut you down?
you have lost your voice for many reasons..they tell you many of them but they don't make sense
you go and sit in a corner quietly...... waiting........to see if they will call on your expertise  but their pride wil not let them
then word gets around about the real reason they won't call on you...you are damaged goods.....used and thrown away by several of the men on one of the other crews.....you let out a sigh

[bliz]

It is very difficult for us when we need to be heard and arent.  Would writing it down help?  If it is work related,maybe documenting how it went when they didnt listen so you can review later.

[Plucky]

Hi Amismax,
You talk about yourself as if you were a tissue.  Human beings are not disposable.  If you have been used, that is something you can move beyond.  It has happened to lots of us.  It is not the end of your useful life.  You have lots more to give and much more to receive.

If you are trying to help someone who will not listen, try to let go.  Insisting, and sitting in a corner devaluing yourself,  will not help them and it will harm you.   Keep yourself healthy so that later, when and if they realise their mistake, you'll be around to allow them to mend things.  Above all, don't throw pearls to swine!
Plucky

[cat]

Plucky . . . good advise. Amismax when that happens to me, I generally walk out of the room.  If someone is going to devalue me like that, I have other things to do and better ways to spend my time.

As Plucky said, there's always the opportunity to regain that ground if the person should come back and ask for your voice.

There are plenty of people who would like to hear what you are saying. . . who NEED to hear what you are saying.  You are the only you created in the universe.

Shout that!