Well there has been a turn of events which I could have never forseen nor believed before today.
My h is willing to look at the sexual abuse and sex/love addict issues in his life. He finally got a copy of
Why Does He Do That? and started reading it.
We had an appointment with a psychologist today. I was extremely nervous about going there. In the past my h has ALWAYS used joint therapy sessions to
get more evidence that I am the one who is messed up. Well yesterday he did not do that. The psych listened to both our stories and then proceeded to inform my h that his beliefs and behavior were abusive and unhealthy. So glad to hear another man say it like it is to my h.
So begins my h's therapy.
I've known for years that h had this problem and even got books on it for him to read. Yet none of them have addressed h's issues like Lundy's book.
Don't know where this is going. Don't know if there will be actual changes. Don't know how long it will take.
As the psych put it, he is willing to look at the issues and he does admit the attitudes and behaviors are unhealthy and destructive to our marriage and to me.
The psych told me already if he is willing and admits to what he is doing, there is half the battle.
If you pray, please do. Thank you.
