What is she thinking?

[Bewildered]

Ok, Yesterday I went over to her house when she was at work and collected some stuff of mine which was in her garage. I put the key that she had given me to her house in a white envelope and wrote "My KEY" on it and taped it to her door. I did not go inside the house or spend a moment longer that I needed. I drove away with my stuff. So long honey!

Saturday night will be so good  - I have the 'cool Clint' thing working here. Yep! Nope!
I am so cool I am almost frozen over ! I will resemble a slow walkin' slow talkin' statue. Flinty Clinty.

She sent me another email -  I zapped it dead.


The guy formerly known as 'Bewildered '

[Hopalong]

 
Flinty Clinty, you made my day!

Hopalong
 

[Brigid]

No longer Bewildered and totally indifferent,

Flinty Clinty--what a perfect persona.  I'm dying to hear the results.

Brigid

[miss piggy]

Hello Flinty Clinty 

Wow, you are doing awesome damage control.  Cool.

Since you came to the board bewildered and desiring to learn...and because I read these articles later and thought of your situation, I post these links for everybody.  They have to do with takers and caretakers. 

Bewildered, you didn't strike me as a "caretaker" in your posts, but Miss At My Convenience may have mistaken you for one.  She is definitely a taker.  And from your description of her family life (occupations that involve a lot of control) she is probably very controlling herself.

http://www.rebuilding.ca/caretaker.htm

http://www.seniormag.com/caregiverresources/articles/caregiverarticles/relationships/codependent-relationships.htm

Another great site I just discovered is www.innerbonding.com.  very helpful articles.

Enjoy your free weekend!!!    MP

[Bewildered]

Hey, this is today- Saturday.
  "You gotta ask yourself lady,  do you REALLY wanna come near me - are you feeling lucky lady?"
 ( Just thinking out loud here.)

I got the squinting eyes and the square jaw and the head held high and the wide open chest.
 
Bring her on.....

Maybe I will give her two,three syllables- tops. Maybe a grunt or a "no thanks" with a slow side to side head movement and one raised eyebrow --  and then I slowly get up and take another lady around the floor for some slow dancing .

I got so much indifference I could can the surplus and sell it at on eBay.

Flinty Clinty ( The wuss formerly known as Bewildered)

[j_stice]

Hey Bewlildered,

What else can I say, you saw that the decision that you thought was too hard was way easier than you expected! The strength that you have is not indifference to her, but forms the backbone of what is acceptible behaviour to you! Congratulations and keep it up and don't ever forget the reasons why you took the actions you did!

[Bewildered]

I have a real sharp navy blue suit picked out( made to measure too) with a starched white shirt and a deep red nectie. New shoes too.  I called another lady friend of mine who likes to hang out with me and we are going to the dinner dance as a couple(she knows my ex G/F and is not too impressed by her recent antics)

Wish me luck !

Jeez, I hope ex G/F shows up tonight !!

[j_stice]

Hey Bewildered,

Good move going back to face her with some support, especially if you are looking sharp and doing something you enjoy.

[mum]

Dear Be: I think you should go out have fun for YOU!! And for the person you are with. If experience (of me and many friends) is any indication.....you will run into your ex when you are: unshaven, slovenly, in need of a haircut and not the least bit put together!!

[Hopalong]

I got so much indifference I could can the surplus and sell it at on eBay
    SNORT
Ol' Flinty, Ol' Bew,
A man who has recovered his sense of humor is a MAN IN FULL!!

(Yep, it might just be a teeny bit deflating if she doesn't turn up...but don't you worry about that.) Remember, Flinty Clinty is so PRESENT, thinking gunslinger thoughts about banditos, that he just doesn't bother about one little spider scurrying around the floor of the bar. Or no spider.

You go have FUN! Ex-GF Dead-Draw Slaughter at the Snubbin' Corral might be cancelled, postponed, happen as planned, not happen, happen in some unpredictable way...but never you mind. Ol' Flinty Clinty's just doin' his two-step, movin' on in the dance o' life.

I better stop before I choke on Westernisms, but have fun and don't worry!
Giddiyap!

Hopalong Cassidy

[Bewildered]

Hey Gang,  she didn't show up ! Maybe next week, maybe never, maybe she  is pissed because I don't answer her emails .Maybe it all doesn't matter and what matters is that I got my freedom and my sanity back and I am doing "Clint" pretty good over here .
I had a nice time last night. I teased a lot of ladies and made them laugh and scared a few too! Got two invites to dance from ladies whom I never met before . This Flinty Clinty thing is really working for me  - awesome! ( I am starting to sound like a college man !)

Flinty Clinty( formerly known as Bewildered)

[Hopalong]

Maybe...what matters is that I got my freedom and my sanity back...

Hey Bew,
That's GREAT. (Except maybe the scaring people part? Did Flinty get carried away and put the drop on somebody? Or was it just your dancing?  )

It is wonderful thing that you got caught up in the present and had a good time ... and I bet that's why you did. What a swift passage you've made since you came on this board.

My old track record was from many months to even years to get over choosing bad eggs.
You are inspiriing!

Hopalong

[Brigid]

FC,
Good going.  I'm sure you charmed a few ladies with that steely-eyed glare (maybe you need to be a little less steely if you're scaring some  ). 

The bottom line is, who cares if she shows up or not.  You are doing fine without her and when she does eventually show her face, you will be able to give her that totally indifferent, but very flinty look she deserves. 

Brigid

[Bewildered]

Not so scary Flinty Clinty has done a dumb thing . I opened a text message from her without thinking DELETE !!

She says that she  is" feeling sad about what happened and misses  me a lot". Go figure !
At least I did not reply to the message ,as much as I wanted to say something to 'needle' her.

Maybe her new guy has the personality of a box of rocks. Maybe she just wamts S*X . maybe , maybe, who cares .
I am too busy thinking about that nice lady I met Saturday night  - emailed her today and we are going out for a "cup of tea and some stimulation conversation."

Finty Clinty.

[Hopalong]

Ya know, even the toughest cowpoke can be undone by email.

I swear it would never have occcured to me to mention this here, but did you know there's this really cool feature on email called BLOCK SENDER???
Hey, got an idea for a new thread!

Seriously, FC, it's aloooooooone with a comuter monitor that one can lose one's nerve about not "just reading." The emotional hook's still in there...somehow email goes in between the ribs...I think it's disembodied, feeds fantasy...right. That's for the new thread.

But you HANG ON TO YER SADDLE AND KEEP RIDIN', PODNER...

Hopalong