Hiya (((((((((((Plucky)))))))))))))) (((((((((((((Xenia)))))))))))))) (((((((((((((((((Hoppy)))))))))))) (((((((((((((Ceemee))))))))))))
Thanks for your replies.
Hoppy... I know I'm not going to find out exactly what happened. It's impossible to do that, but it could give me an insight into parts of my childhood. Like with the above, how serious was it? Did I even get taken to the doctor? These are answers that I feel quite sure Mum wouldn't tell me, but it possibly shows on my notes. I remember Mum saying that I screamed blue murder as she put it and I do wonder what she did expect. Boiling water gets spilt on a 2/3 year old for whatever reason, and they aren't supposed to cry?
CM.... sometimes I think we have to try and piece together what we can, gathering information from where we can. Like you say, I have no intention in confronting her, or blaming her... it would be nice to know. My parents had separated/divorced by this time, so I guess we would have been living with my Nan. I truly hope you manage to find some answers too, and I'd love to hear how you get on.
There is another reason for getting the doctor's notes... when I was 17 and had just left Mum's, I had a doctor's appointment that I had to go back for. The doctor was our family doctor and had been for a good 10 years at this time. I can't remember his exact words, but it was something along the lines of, "I won't pretend I didn't know what was happening, and it's good that you have left". I remember feeling really surprised at the time.
There were also several times at Mum's where stuff would happen in front of the windows, and I remember thinking why doesn't anyone help me? But given that this was in the late 80's, I presume that neighbours didn't want to get involved etc. I really hope times have changed now.
Love H&H xx