Send me some good vibes

[roaring dad]

Please send me some good vibes.  I have a job interview on Wednesday.

[Healing&Hopeful]

Oooh, good luck.  I hope you have chance to prepare well, and remember... you're the best person for the job and they'd be mad not to hire you 

[CeeMee]

SD,

Good luck to you.  2006 is going to be a great year, starting with a brand new job.

Some unsolicited advice, practice, practice, practice.  Role play, role play, role play.  Visualize, visualize, visualize

I've always found these things helpful.

CeeMee

[miss piggy]

Hi Singledad!!!

Good luck!  Just tell yourself you belong there and tell them why!  Raz-zle, daz-zle!     MP

[Hop guest]

You GO, Guy!

One thought I had is that something very empowering when you head into an interview is to concentrate on putting OUT good vibes.

Like CeeMee says, visualization is wonderful. When I've been walking to difficult meetings with a person I feared recently, I've taken the long way 'round and intentionally worked myself into a state of peace and benevolence.

To reduce my strong anxiety, I literally imagined him bathed in white light, as a vulnerable child I could feel compassion for, etc. And every time I've taken the few minutes to do that...it's made a huge difference. I've been much more able to relax and focus and be alert but calm during the meeting itself.

I think that takes a lot of the fear out of interviews too, if you visualize the people you'll be talking to as people you wish to make comfortable. Think about putting THEM at ease by offering your services and skills. Think about how you'll be helping them and how glad you are to do that.

Make it just a vibe thing, rehearsing in your mind: "I am here to help YOU and very happy to be meeting you and listening well to you and then telling you about how I can rise to the task."  This way you get the focus off yourself and onto meeting their needs. Calming yourself beforehand with that kind of positive practice takes down your anxiety and frees the way for you to present that good vibe.

GOOD LUCK and keep us posted!!

Hopalong

[mudpuppy]

Hi singledad,

I'm self employed and occasionally am forced to hire an employee.
What I look for is less high qualifications and competence, although those are nice, but more a sense of responsibility and integrity. Most bosses are just happy to get somebody who shows up on time and doesn't stuff as many office supplies in his trousers every evening as he can carry.
What kind of job is it BTW?

Good luck and be yourself.

mud

[roaring dad]

I do have something going for me.  I am interviewing with someone I have been friends with for years.  I'll be working in social work.  It is a program to help kids with behavioral and emotional problems.  I will team with a counselor to do behavioral therapy.  For example if a kid needs to develop spcialization skills, I'll take them to the mall and walk around with them.  Or it could be mentoring or just being an ear for the kids to count on once a week.  Most likely I will be working with elementary age, but I can pick from older kids too.

[Marta]

Hi Singledad, Wish you the very best. Go in knowing that you are more than qualified for the job, as someone who's gone to great lengths to be a good dad. Marta

[bean]

That sounds like fun, helping kids.

Visualize yourself having fun in the interview.  Talking about what you love to do will be easy. 

If you do get a little nervous and aren't as calm as you wanted to be, don't beat yourself up.  Most people are nervous in interviews and others accept it.

hugs,

bean

[write]

Hi S/d

The key to interview success is- preparation.

*Knowing what the job entails ( call and talk to the people there, go visit etc. Get a feel for the place )

*Having thought about what you can bring to the post, your skills, experience and general attitude to youth.

I want to say this-tactfully- knowing you are going through a lot at the moment-
do not be tempted to talk about your own child's current difficulties.

Though it might reveal you as a kind empathetic father it will not endear you as a prospective employee.
Employment screening is brief and frankly largely innacurate, so recruiters don't want anything which sounds a knell of 'potential problem' which might come back on them, no matter how good the employee may be.

They probably won't take a chance if you open up your emotional heart.

(and I have done this twice- both at times I needed the work and probably equally needed a therapist. I didn't get either job )

So prepare YOURSELF, and GOOD LUCK!

~W

[onlyrenting]

S/D

Sending you best wishes in securing this job.
I have much respect for you for reaching out to help others.
You were so helpful in my situtation, you had lots of great advise regarding my D

Thank you for your help and wishing you a positive experience.

OR

[roaring dad]

I appreciate the advice.  I of course won't talk about my situation during the interview.  I think this interview is just a lot of going through the motions, but I get nervous anyway.  The person I am interviewing with is a friend since high school.  Our kids play together, and they call me Uncle.  Even before she suggested I apply for the job, I talked at length with her about my situation.  Because of her counseling background, she is familiar with personality disorders and the like and has given me a lot of advice and help.

[Hopalong]

SD,

Just keep your focus on the JOB and on making HER feel comfortable.
You're not charity, she's not interviewing you out of pity.

So don't be pitiful.

A few nerves are normal but since you already know her, try to let that go.
Keep the focus on helping HER feel confident about your capability.

You'll do just fine.

Hopalong