husband is controlling me....

[Hopalong]

Hi Helena,
It must be so stressful to be having all that anger and a baby too.
I hope you can get some support and help...

You asked if there is any way he could admit he is sick....
imho, there's no reason to wait for anybody to admit anything. Just words.

You need to create a new life for yourself and your daughter.

You sound quite entangled financially, and that might be the first area to clean up.

Can you take him to court for child support, and can you sell the BMW?
Nobody who has trouble affording diapers for their child can drive a BMW, right?

The anger is so understandable, but do you think it might also be preventing you from detaching
and creating a new life?  I hope you can.

It's a very hard thing you're going through. You'll find a lot of wise people here and a lot of prctical advice in the posts...keep reading and writing but take action for yourself in your community too.

Hopalong

[write]

Hi Evelyn, welcome.

Have you read 'The Verbally Abusive Relationship' by Patricia Evans?

It's the ideal first book to start putting behaviours ( and responses ) into context when everything feels so overwhelming.

[Artsy]

Evelyn, I have been in your shoes and I know that at some point you will realize that the time is right for you to leave.

In the meantime, it is important that you fiind out exactly what the financial situation is.  While he is at work, search out past tax returns, bank books, bank statements, etc.  If you can squirrel away money, do that.  (don't put it into a savings account, because the bank will send a tax statement at the end of the year)  I tucked my squirreling money into the molding of a closet door (on the inside of the closet, where no one looks - behind and above your head)

Wishing you all the best and courage too.