CPS won't investigate

[movinon]

Well, the intake person I spoke to w/ CPS says there's not enough to issue an investigation into my d's abuse.  She did agree that the showering and sleeping was inappropriate but....

I do feel some relief that CPS won't be involved.  I've heard a few horror stories about how unpredictable they can be.  At least he's "on file".

I also got a huge run around in regards to help and protective orders.  In speaking to the people I DID speak with, I don't have a right to keep her away from him right now.  They also indicated my case was shaky b/c he hasn't abused any of us recently and I never made any reports.

To get a protective order (which is not sounding good for my case) there is a process wherein I wake up at the crack of dawn to stand in a long, long line before they are even open and possibly get an appointment for an interview and possibly NOT (Mon. thru Fri. only - violence doesn't happen on the weekends ya know).

Oh, but I did get some very helpful advice - call the cops when he's breaking through the door or after he's shot you - VEEEEEERRY helpful.

Who's the law protecting here?

Make me even more determined to crucify him in court!

Movinon

[mum]

That's right, Movinon, he's on file. At least there is that, and so far your baby has not been additionally traumatized (if at all).
It's ok. This situation is unpredictable....keep strong and expect the best outcome. You are armed (and I might say Dangerous, mother bear) and ready to deal.
When I have been faced wtih (and I am daily) legal turns and twists, I step back, take a moment to let things sit, and then say, OK. Well, this is how it is right now.  And then I keep "movinon", one foot in front of the other.

[Healing&Hopeful]

Hiya Movinon

In some ways that's good isn't it?  They don't see him as a threat to your daughter... in their professional opinion they don't think he's done an unthinkable kind of abuse?

I still feel that what a few others mentioned about taking her to the doctor's, just to get her professionally checked out won't hurt, and will give you peace of mind.

But in all of this, you know you are doing what's best for your daughter... hold onto that thought.

Take care

H&H xx

[Sela]

HI Movinon:

Well.....one fear gets replaced with another eh.  So sorry that has happened.  But you are brave and good to care so deeply about this child and her safety and welfare.   And for trying to find a way to protect her.

I was thinking....after reading it......would you consider taking your long checklist, from the other thread, with you......if you do decide to visit the doc?  I think it makes it very clear the type of person you are dealing with.....ya know.....give the doc a real clear picture?

The doc would have to be a total dimwit not to see the danger.  Just an idea.  Hope it helps.

I'm glad he's on file.  He should be in jail.  He's assaulted you in so many ways and on so many occasions that he deserves some penalty.  Reminds me of my father who got away with everything he ever did.

In this life.

Big prayers for you from now on, Movinon.  Keeping you on high in that department.

((((((((Movinon)))))))))

Sela

[write]

sometimes these things are a long process.

For him- it's the beginning of the end once you start to draw attention and set boundaries.

Do you feel in a better place than last night?

[Hopalong]

Hey...me too, ditto, my 2 cents:
I think taking your checklist along and quietly giving it to the doctor is a GOOD idea.

Just because docs are rushed, sometimes I actually write my doc a letter before I go see him before an important appt. Do you think it would help to send him a copy before you go in with your D? Just mark it Personal and Confidential...

Get others' thoughts here...I dunno about legal ramifications...but it sounds like a very good idea to me.

((((Movinon)))))

Hops