Hi Movinon, interesting questions. I’m 44 and have always attracted and been attracted to, older men. My current partner is 10+ years older, previous men have been older (5-10 years).
I think we’re more likely to find couples with men older than women in any culture? Not sure? Maybe because they can procreate for a long time where as we have a limited time. Maybe because older ones are perceived to be wiser, maybe more established in their work and therefore better providers…?
You sound like a woman I’d admire and want to be friends with! I’d like to learn from your strengths and attitude! But that’s friendship – not a partnership and ….
Is it possible that men my age are also intimidated and older men are more able to appreciate these qualities?Yep I think so, spot on. You’re 39? Okay, huge generalisations coming up, just my thoughts: Men in their late 30s will be looking for younger women who want to and can support them in their ‘careers’ or life-goals. The 30s and early 40s are the prime time for making your mark, for being ambitious, for creating a legacy (including
family). Men here need a woman who will go with them towards their goals in life – they might not want a woman who already knows who she is thank you very much, who knows what she likes and doesn’t like – they may want someone who is still searching and striving and wanting more……
When men wise-up that life isn’t a competition (if they do, and this applies to women too of course), when they’ve been through the mid-life crazies and come out the other side – hey! – they appreciate a woman who knows her own mind, her own life. They want to know the woman instead of wanting to shape the woman into their own lives (women do this too with men).
Does any of this sound reasonable, possible?
I think it’s more to do with
age-stages in life than gender.
If I was looking….I’d be looking for a man 50+ for definite. Under 50, there’s still time for big psychological changes, over 50….less so I imagine. I like a man who knows himself
