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How do you break up with your therapist??

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Anonymous:
Oh, you are both so right!!!  I haven't expressed anything to her yet, as I kind of just had this revelation in the last week or so.  I read the addiction material she gave me last week and kinda went "Huh??".  I do like her and I think she has a lot of great points, just never considered that her forte may be addiction.  

The other side of this is HOW to tell her that I'm uncomfortable with that label and that I really need more help with my mother?    I am terrible with conflict (go figure) which is why I usually cut and run.  Your posts make me hopeful that I, too, will get better at dealing with conflict.  Thanks for the insight and the recommended reading.  If you can help me figure out how to approach with her (don't want to hurt her feelings), please help me get started!  I look forward to the day when I won't be such a chicken!!

BTW - I really like the idea about the horoscope...certainly would make things more simple

Avery:
Sheesh, that last post was me!  Sorry.  Thank you, Write for the book reference.  I'm feeling better about things!  

Avery

write:
look at this statement again, in context.

HER feelings?

What the hell responsibility are they for you?

If you are caretaking your therapist...it's time to move on.

Portia Guest nologgedin:
Write's comments seconded. I haven't had a therapist yet, but your first post and the question:
--- Quote ---Should I break up with her?
--- End quote ---
makes me ask what is this relationship? It ain't romantic! You're paying for a service - you don't want the service, you say so. Your therapist would soon drop you if you didn't pay the bills. I don't mean this in a demeaning way but if a prostitute didn't see a particular client again, would she/he be hurt??? No.
Remember too your therapist has lots of other clients; she'll get over it...

Portia:
Sorry, I think that was a bit harsh of me. Avery, you asked how do you tell her? How about printing off these posts – copy into Word if you don’t want her to see your name etc – and just give her the paper to read? Don’t say anything, don’t apologise (you have nothing to feel bad about!), just see what she says?
Is there a 'rule' that says you always have to talk to your therapist? Why not hand over a print of your feelings and then discuss.
Also, what are your options for changing therapists? Are there many in your area?

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