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Certain Hope

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Relational Wisdom
« on: May 27, 2006, 08:01:16 AM »
Hi,

I enjoy reading the Proverbs in the Bible and just wanted to share a few that have helped me a great deal (when I've been willing to heed them  :?)  A good deal of my struggles within relationships have been with angry fools, vis my own avoidance of conflict and tendancy to clam up in the presence of a bully. I used to think: if only I could stand up to this person and respond appropriately, give just the right witty retort, he or she would stop. heh. I've since learned that clamming up isn't such a bad option; in fact, it may be the wisest recourse.  These are from the "New Living Translation", by the way.

Proverbs 15:1  A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.

Proverbs 12:16  A fool is quick-tempered, but a wise person stays calm when insulted.

Proverbs 17:10  A single rebuke does more for a person of understanding than a hundred lashes on the back of a fool.

Proverbs 17:12  It is safer to meet a bear robbed of her cubs than to confront a fool caught in folly.

Proverbs 29:9  If a wise person takes a fool to court, there will be ranting and ridicule but no satisfaction.

Proverbs 19:11  People with good sense restrain their anger; they earn esteem by overlooking wrongs.

Proverbs 29:11  A fool gives full vent to anger, but a wise person quietly holds it back.

Proverbs 28:3  A stone is heavy and sand is weighty, but the resentment caused by a fool is heavier than both.

Proverbs 22:  24 Keep away from angry, short-tempered people, 25 or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul.

Proverbs 22:10  Throw out the mocker, and fighting, quarrels, and insults will disappear.

Ecclesiastes 7:9  Don't be quick-tempered, for anger is the friend of fools.

and my all time personal favorite  :shock:   
Proverbs 22:10  Throw out the mocker, and fighting, quarrels, and insults will disappear.
 



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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #1 on: May 27, 2006, 10:56:14 AM »
Thank you, Certain Hope!! Absolute gold. Since I have not studied the bible for quite some time, I thank you for reminding me of what wisdom it holds!
I am a person who sees connections all over the place.....and I love that these ancient words (re-mixed...acknowledged) are just so universally said in so many cultures/spiritual texts.

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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #2 on: May 27, 2006, 11:29:00 AM »
Hi CH,

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Proverbs 17:12  It is safer to meet a bear robbed of her cubs than to confront a fool caught in folly.


One of my all time faves.

Another is Proverb 22:24,25
Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man do not go,
lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul.


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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #3 on: May 27, 2006, 11:54:22 AM »
Proverbs 12:10 :  A righteous [man] regardeth the life of his beast: but the tender mercies of the wicked [are] cruel.

God loves animals too... :-)
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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #4 on: May 27, 2006, 02:51:55 PM »
Love is patient
Love is kind
Love does not envy
Love is not proud
Love never ends
And now Faith,Hope and Love abide,
These three and the greatest of these is Love.        Corinthians 13
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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #5 on: May 27, 2006, 05:24:40 PM »
I like 'Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself: sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof'

I often go to sleep trying to think that.

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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #6 on: May 27, 2006, 06:00:15 PM »
write,

I have that one over my desk.

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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #7 on: May 27, 2006, 06:13:37 PM »
Proverbs 28:3  A stone is heavy and sand is weighty, but the resentment caused by a fool is heavier than both.

Wow... how true is this?!!  Thanks for posting xx
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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #8 on: May 27, 2006, 07:54:36 PM »
Hi CH,

Thanks for starting such a good pondering thread.

You and Mud already got to my Bible favorites:

Proverbs 29.9 If a wise person takes a fool to court, there will be ranting and ridicule but no satisfaction

Proverb 22:24,25
Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man do not go,
lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul.


Hope there's room for Chinese proverbs here? These'd be my faves:

  -If you are patient in one moment of anger you will escape a hundred days of sorrow

  -Failure is not falling down but refusing to get up

  -Do not remove a fly from your friend's head with a hatchet  :shock:

« Last Edit: May 27, 2006, 07:56:44 PM by lightofheart »

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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #9 on: May 27, 2006, 09:27:08 PM »
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-Do not remove a fly from your friend's head with a hatchet 


LOL, LOH.

But what about my enemy's head? :P

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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #10 on: May 27, 2006, 09:47:37 PM »
by all means, give the fly the hatchet
 :lol: back

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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #11 on: May 27, 2006, 09:52:47 PM »
Hi Mud and LoH    ,Humbly I must say I have learned a great deal of compassion from "enemies".I am looking for a gentler path.
             Thanks CH great thread
              Moon

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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #12 on: May 27, 2006, 10:06:24 PM »
Gosh.
Sorry, Moon, CH; no disrespect intended.
Just joking.

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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #13 on: May 27, 2006, 10:51:19 PM »
You silly I knew you were joking I loved it.No disrespect taken .I am an artist My communication skills are lacking (thats my excuse) I love your humor
LoH 
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« Last Edit: May 27, 2006, 10:55:02 PM by moonlight52 »

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Re: Relational Wisdom
« Reply #14 on: May 28, 2006, 08:40:42 AM »
Thanks to all who responded and shared :) This was good reading this morning!

It's all good, LoH  :) Personally, I've always enjoyed the imagery of heaping burning coals onto the heads of our enemies  :x BUT... then I'm reminded of something I heard recently about a discussion between Jesus and His disciples... The Lord told this rag-tag bunch of men of all the great things they would do in His name ~ heal the sick, cast out demons, raise the dead  :shock: ~ and these guys seemed to take it all in stride. After all, they'd seen Him do all these things and it had become a part of their personal experience. But one day Jesus really laid a shocker before them. He told them that they must forgive their brother who'd offended them, and not only that but: "Even if he wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, forgive him." Ouch. Heal the sick, sure! Cast our devils? No problem  8) Raise the dead?? Piece of cake! But you want us to forgive our brother???  :o  "Lord, increase our faith!!"  Yup and Amen.