Hi Portia!
I am truly sorry if I have in anyway caused you any anxiety. I can only speak for myself, of course, but I was not thinking of you when I responded to Avery's post, just speaking in general.
Hey, I can be as confrontational as the best of them, but I find that I am pretty good at discerning whether that will be helpful to the person I am speaking to or whether that person just needs a good old fashioned hug. Now, that's my approach, but my approach may not always work, or be the best approach, so it's great to have others with different approaches as well. And I think the fact that you "felt sick to your stomach" at the thought that we might have been referring to you takes you out of the "mean-spirited" poster category. Such a person would say, "Screw you and what you think." or atleast would think it, that's my opinion.
Yes, some times pissing someone off is the best way to make an impression. I find that I'll sit back and fume, and them self-relfection sneaks up on me, and in a room with my therapist we explore whether or not that person is right!
Some people, however, haven't learned how to do that, and are very good at beating themselves up. Maybe there's a better way to be direct. I don't know. I think your posts were direct, but not offensive. I was speaking about an anonymous "Guest" with narcisstic undertones to their advice. But hey, I could be wrong about that as well.
Alas, I am infallably human!!!!
