I need help

[seasons]

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[mudpuppy]

This woman's behavior is illegal and potentially dangerous.
Get legal help. And then build a large, tall, solid fence. Either that or move.
You don't have anything to be embarrassed about, she's intentionally terrorizing you.
Your husband's cousin is potentially liable for her behavior, especially considering his comments acknowledging her nuttiness, so perhaps a legal threat will prompt him to behave responsibly and either curtail her misbehavior or give her the boot.
I know its tough being aggressive but once one of these nuts marks you as a target you usually either have to bloody their nose or leave to get any peace.
Praying for you.

mud

[IamNewtoMe]

Oh, Seasons, it is so awful to feel so scared and helpless!  My heart goes out to you.

This woman sounds really scary.  Can you communicate with the cousin at all?  Who knows, he might even be willing to split the cost of a land surveyor with you.  I also think it would be worth it to your health to spend some money on legal council.  Having the law on your side might give you some more courage and validation.

You should not have to live in fear.  I think you are very brave to confont this.

[Healing&Hopeful]

Oh Seasons hon... what a witch!

I'm with mudpuppy on this one... get legal help in the first instance.... and take photo's, take photo's of the fence and where it is.  At least find out where the boundary is, then pull her fence down and put your own one up in the right place.

And I think there's a couple of things to bear in mind.... it's YOUR garage!  Yours and your DH... not hers.  You have a right to go into your garage whenever your want to because it's yours and you own it.  Same with the driveway... it's yours so why should you not be able to use it!

Actually thinking about the photo's, do you have a camera which shows the date and time thingy?  Every time she's staring out of the window at you, take her photo...  I think most people would think twice if they thought they were going to be photo'd each time.

Take care

H&H xx

[Sugarbear]

I just wanted to echo the others about getting legal help... and absolutely get a surveyor out to set your property lines. Once the encrochment is left for a period of time, then it is legally binding... My dad lost about 4 feet of yard this way when a neighbor cemented a driveway that ran onto his property.

I'm so sorry for you having to live next door to this nightmare!

(((seasons)))

[mudpuppy]

BTW, the usual standard for establishing a prescriptive right or adverse possesion by encroachment or use is usually five years, so you have plenty of time on that score, although states do vary. Talk to a lawyer.

mud

[Hopalong]

Seasons, that is just horrible.
I loathe the idea of you feeling so vulnerable and intimidated in your own home!

I am so sorry this has been happening to you. I hope you can access your inner tiger and face the fear of her and NOT let her bully you any more. You are a STRONG season!

Is there such a thing as a mediation service in your community? I don't know much about laws and courts, etc....but perhaps something like that could be arranged?

Hops

[Healing&Hopeful]

((((((((Seasons))))))))

I'm glad you went to your garage.  I felt angry to read that because of your neighbour's intimidation you didn't feel comfortable doing so and I apologise if my post came across a bit strong.  I do hope you continue to use your driveway and garage and I hope your neighbour gets her just desserts...

Take care

H&H xx

[seasons]

H&H  (your post was great)
hops
mudpuppy
sugarbear
sugarre
IamNewtoMe
jacmac

Hugs to you all for helping me. And I'm sorry for anyone that has had this dilemma, I know it can be awful.
Outside friends and family didn't take this serious and acted like it was a joke, when it was extremely painful.
 
(seasons)

[Hopalong]

BRAVO, Seasons, you great brave garage-goer, you!

Stomp. Stomp. Stomp.

Here comes Seasons.

Stare all you like.

It's HER garage, thankyouverymuch.

Evil from behind the windowblinds make you...dingbat neighbor...just look RIDICULOUS.

(((((((((((((Seasons))))))))))

Hops

[gratitude28]

Seasons,
Please take care of yourself and do get some authority to intercede on your behalf. I am not sure where you live, but a report to the police should be filed, I believe. This sounds like behavior which could escalate.
I am worried about you, so please check in often to tell us how you are and if you are making progress with the situation.
Love, Beth