checking in

[daylily guest]

Hello everyone:

I just wanted to check in and say that while I am still reading, I don't have much energy to write these days.  Tomorrow it will be one month since my mother's death, and while I think I've made some progress, it is hard.  I miss her many times each day, and I feel a lot of vivid, painful emotions associated with her death and our relationship.

I believe there will be a new life for me, but at the moment, I can't see it.  The experience of my mother's illness and death sort of consumed me for ten months.  Moving on is both strange and difficult, but I know I will do it.  I don't want to stay in this place, and I shouldn't.  But right now, the way out is hidden behind a lot of sadness and guilt and anger--all the stones in that wall called grief.

Anyway, please know that my thoughts are with you all, even if I'm not saying much these days.  I hope to get back to more active participation soon.

Best,
daylily

[Certain Hope]

Dear Daylily,

  Your courage and sweetness show so simply (and reassuringly) here by your thoughtfulness in just checking in. It's so good to read you. Being patient with the grieving process must be one of the toughest challenges to be faced in life. There's so much involved... and so much forgiveness to be extended to others and to self, which I think is the only way to reduce the impact of all the "what could have beens". You are in my prayers for complete restoration, that what is past can be placed securely there where it belongs, all in perfect time.

With love,
Hope

[pennyplant]

Hi Daylily,

Be patient and kind to yourself.  You've been through a lot and it takes time to absorb it and make some kind of sense of it.  It takes time to get used to your new life.

It's good to hear from you, (((Daylily))).

Love, Pennyplant

[Hopalong]

Dear Daylily...

Let those stones float up, and then go.

That's a miracle and stones float all the time.

love to you,
Hops

[WRITE]

grieving is a process, it's good for you, cathartic to go through it.

Yes, there wil be a new life for you at the end, when you've worked through all these emotions.

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[portia guest]

Dear daylily

Vivid painful emotions, sadness, guilt and anger….this sounds like just the content for posts on this board to me. But if you’re experiencing the emotions and they leave you with little energy to write, that’s understandable. But if you want to write, you can write here.

more active participation…..? No-one has to participate (interact) to contribute. Describing or expressing emotions here – just for the sake of putting them down and so, perhaps, giving them a life outside of you (and just maybe letting them leave you a little, or change in their meaning to you?) – there’s no law against it.

A post doesn’t have to be a question, an invitation to converse; a post can be whatever you want it to be I think.

Grieving happens alone but you’re allowed to express it and others will listen, even if only to listen. You can use your voice here, without any pressure or duty to do anything else, I think. In other words, you’re not alone.