Attitude from Within

[penelope]

I think I am finally getting the concept (getting it and applying it) that Attitude is from within.  To me, this means that no matter what is going on in the world, my inner karma (or whatever it is) does not have to be affected by what's happening externally.

Maybe this is a form of detachment I learned growing up in a dysfunctional family and now I'm learning to put it to good use (?), maybe I just now learned it, but things here do not seem to be affecting me as they are affecting others.

No it's not pleasant, but at the same time, does it have to affect my attitude?  Well, I'm trying to not let it.  I'm sure the meds help, as always, my disclaimer..........

Can anybody else relate here?  Feel free to express your attitude and why or why you don't think it needs changing (for yourself, of course).

pb

(and hope, I'll be dissappointed if you don't post some definitions, PP use a little sarcasm, RM- exclaim Hallelujah! or some such thing, portia ask a probing question, movin - state this all has to do with women's power, hops - tie this in to world peace, write- edit it and state things even better, moon-relate this to your sweet family, storm- see the darker side of it, jac-completely surprise me, mud-make some corny joke about it, and somebody else sidetrack the discussion entirely...in other words, act exactly as you always do.  you get my point, right?)

[moonlight52]

PB YES YOU HAVE IT EXACTLY RIGHT ON THE BUTTON .MOST OF THE TIME I CAN DO THIS AND HAVE BEEN.YESTERDAY
BLEW IT .
MOON

[portia guest]

Pb I smiled big time

my inner karma (or whatever it is) does not have to be affected by what's happening externally.

*YOU* don't have to be affected! Wow

things here do not seem to be affecting me as they are affecting others.

Yup, sometimes I think so and then.....oh dear... I'm one of the others...only human! We all do stuff that makes us human i.e. not perfect

Can anybody else relate here? 

Yesssseee!

portia ask a probing question

  errrrr......Does it feel good? is it great to think...I control myself? I don't have to (fill in blank). And when your brain's clicked into a certain position...it feels like it might stay there, there's no going back? That feels good. Like giving a finely-tuned PC a new piece of software, er, maybe...hey it's late . This hardware isn't up to probing questions!

[penelope]

that wasn't very probing...get some sleep!

((((((((((portia)))))))))))))

((((((((((((((((MOON))))))))))))))))

hey moon, I pulled a moon-er last night (speaking of lack of sleep).  yup, an all-nighter- stayed up and worked on Work.  Not like me to feel insomniatic, strange.  Anyways, I was thinking of you.  Hope you're getting that hernia healthy.  Sending some healing energy your way
~ooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm~

pb

[portia guest]

you're right....night Pb

[Certain Hope]

OkeyDokey, Pb,

Here goes....

Attitude:      A state of mind or a feeling; disposition: had a positive attitude about work.
            OR   An arrogant or hostile state of mind or disposition.


Disposition:   One's usual mood; temperament: a sweet disposition.

                     ~ A habitual inclination; a tendency: a disposition to disagree.

Affect (v):     To have an influence on or effect a change in: Inflation affects the buying power of the dollar.
                    To act on the emotions of; touch or move.

I think there's a fine balance between being unaffected by circumstances vs. unaffected by people. I do believe that we must retain an awareness of the affect we may have on others, lest we become oblivious. Yeah, feelin serious this evening, but not tenuous 

You affect me, Pb. We're not s'posed to say that somebody makes us feel this or that, but you make me feel valued and cared for. Thanks.

Hugs,
Hope



Personally, my attitude is in a state of flux at this time. In general, it tends to return to one of hope and promise... kinda like your hair tends to part naturally in a certain place.

[Brigid]

Pb,
Since you didn't assign me a specific role (maybe because I am not that predictable or perhaps just too boring), but I will add a comment without sidetracking, hopefully.

I would like to have a feeling of detachment here--really I would.  I would like to not feel any necessity to get involved if the posting become contentious or someone gets under my skin.  Unfortunately, I can't do that because I have allowed myself to attach to a few people here and once I feel that connection, I tend to want to keep it.

Years ago, I heard Dr. Laura (I'm not a fan, but I did agree with this) use the phrase that gratitude is an attitude.  I didn't really embrace that until I went through the trauma I did and have now come out on the other side in a happy, healthy, and peaceful place.  I am VERY grateful for my healing and to those who saw me through it.  I am not unlike those cancer survivors who are actually thankful for their cancer experience because they learned how much to appreciate life and all it offers by staring death in the face. 

I have promised myself to never take happiness for granted again.  I have promised myself to never take my children and friends for granted again.  Life can change on a dime.  If you don't know that and aren't somewhat prepared, you can end up in a horrible place that you may never come out of, unless you decide that you have to, and find the help you need to do so. 

You are right, Pb, attitude does come from within.  There is no other place for it to develop that is meaningful.  We are bright, gifted human beings who can look at what we have and determine if we will be grateful and accepting, angry and blaming victims, or unhappy, but willing to do whatever is necessary to get to a place of happiness.  There really are no other choices, but to remain numb.  IMHO that is a very sad choice, but one that some will make, at least until they can find the energy to feel something again.

It sounds like you are finding your attitude from within and that is good.  You are choosing to find that way to happiness and that is also very good.  I'm very impressed with your progress.  Many blessings on your journey (and not too many bugs in your teeth  ).

Hugs,

Brigid

[penelope]

B- heh heh.  Nothing boring about bugs in one's teeth.  But, I didn't want to say you'd show up with frazzled hair and a few straggling grasshoppers as usual (in case my expectation did not sound too flattering).     

those are good promises B

hope- oh wise one, you are processing...I see the wheels spinning in fact...

[reallyME]

Penelope, WAY TO GO! HALLELUJAH! YOU GOT IT! PROUD OF YA!

[Stormchild]

Sorry, nothing dark here. I feel like a little kid at Christmas, actually, reading this particular thread.

[movinon]

Hmmm,

Had to take some time to think about this - how I may be seen.  Interesting.  I'll take it.

You made a powerful point for me. 

Thank you.

Movinon