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mum

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checking in
« on: August 27, 2006, 12:55:18 PM »
HI, Folks. I miss you all.  Life has been crazy busy, and today I checked the board for the first time in months(?). I don't have any time for this lately, and to tell why would take....time!
I moved....and for someone who has not moved in 20 years....I believe I will still be "moving in" for another, well, I don't know how long.
Lots of transitions, physically, personally, emotionally, parentally, environmentally. All of which I sought, and created and am grateful for. All of which are intrinsically "challenging" as well (oh, I will just say it, sometimes it sure sucks).
I looked in on a few recent threads and was happy to see familiar names as well as new ones.
Anyway, the people on this board are very real to me, and I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you and all the support I have recieved over the years and how grateful I am for it...and if you are "new", please know that this (at least for me) is a healing place.
Love and blessings and light to all
MUM

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Re: checking in
« Reply #1 on: August 27, 2006, 01:54:30 PM »
Mum!

I was just thinking about you. I posted briefly...very briefly...a good while back, so I don't know that you would remember me, but I never forgot your kindness and generous spirit. I was wondering where you were and how you've been doing. I just recently started posting again myself. I'm getting ready to head out to work here, but I had to say (*(*(hello*)*).

Blessings,
Demian,
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Re: checking in
« Reply #2 on: August 27, 2006, 03:52:30 PM »
Hi Mum,
It's so good to see your name!
But I'm sorry you are topsy turvy.
I heard somewhere that moving is second on the scale of major life stressors. Second only to losing someone to death. (I think because to move, we have to be hyperefficient, and suppress our need to emotionally bid farewell. Even when people move for happy reasons, it's still an enormous stress because it's hard to process feelings while you're processing all the newsness and work. Whew.)

Here's to unpacked and winnowed possessions, peace and happiness in your new home.
It will be wonderful to hear about it when you do have time again.

(It'll happen!)

Here's a non-maintenance (self-watering, self-fertilizing, constantly blooming) potted plant on your doorstep.

Hops
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Re: checking in
« Reply #3 on: August 27, 2006, 04:11:54 PM »
Hi Mum ,

 So good to hear from you I will never forget your scorpion story .

Moving out and into new home is emotional even if the move is bright and shiny.

Lots of work.It will be so good Mum to hear from you again.

Love and Blessings to you  :D :D :D

MoonLight

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Re: checking in
« Reply #4 on: August 27, 2006, 06:14:17 PM »
Hey MUM  !!!  I have not been on the borad for so long, I was checking on you and found this thread.
I was wondering if you had moved and how your D was doing and your niece and mother and sister  etc.

I have been very busy, school has started and D is playing volleyball lots to do with little time to read the board these days.  

Life is settling  here in TX, hard to believe I have been here over 1 yr..
D has not seen her Dad now for so long and living 1500 miles away gives me piece of mind.
EX'S brother offered to fly to Vegas meet him there to visit her, he says he won't have anything to do with his brother for helping us.  D misses him but remembers the crazy stuff, she appears to be doing great in shool and I know we both are glad the crazy days are behind us.

Good to hear from you, time is short got to go !!    

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Re: checking in
« Reply #5 on: August 27, 2006, 06:59:01 PM »
Hi Mum,

  Just sending you a wave and a smile.... your move came shortly after my arrival to this forum, I think, but I remember you  :)

Your settling in may take some time, but good things always do. Wishing you the best.

Hope

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Re: checking in
« Reply #6 on: August 27, 2006, 07:03:36 PM »
Mum and OR,
So good to see both your names and to hear that things are going well.  Mum, I assumed you were in the middle of moving, and while I know it is what you have wanted for some time, it is never an easy task.  Take your time and don't try to take it all in all at once.  At least you have your hubby sharing your life with you on a regular basis.  That has to be very nice.

OR,
So glad you and your D are doing well in TX.  I'm sure those many miles between you and your crazy ex are a welcome relief these days.

I hope both of you and your children have a great year.  I leave Wednesday to take my daughter to school and begin my life as an empty nester.  Scarry and sad to say the least.

Hugs,

Brigid

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Re: checking in
« Reply #7 on: August 27, 2006, 07:59:09 PM »
OR,
You are a pioneer woman. And your D too. Matching poke bonnets?
I hope you are having a wonderful adventure in Texas...would love
to hear about the place. I've only been to Dallas there. Gawlee, big city...
Come back and tell us more when you get a moment, okay?
(It must be daunting to think of "catching up" but you could just plunge
in mid-stream...)

Brig...
Empty nester sounds like a label like stay-at-home mom...it's true but it's
so inadequate for all that is BRIGID.
You did such a good job. But your life has all sorts of meaning and mystery
and adventure you haven't had a chance to discover yet. It will come...
once your sore heart feels better (it WILL)...new kinds of happiness ahead.

Once you have a chance to grieve your old fixed identity, you might find
you're feeling more and more curious about what new selves are still unfolding.

hugs,
Hops
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."

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Re: checking in
« Reply #8 on: August 27, 2006, 08:47:22 PM »
Brigid and Hops.. thanks U-ALL for the Howdy!!

I will open another thread so I don't take up Mums..

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Re: checking in
« Reply #9 on: August 27, 2006, 08:48:10 PM »
hi mum,

You got out just in time as your old neck of the woods is under water I hear!  So there's one blessing to count.

howdy OR.

hugs,
p. bean

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Re: checking in
« Reply #10 on: August 27, 2006, 11:04:34 PM »
Hi Mum


I LOVE hearing that people are transitioning and going to different levels in their lives! That is so encouraging to know!  Good job!~

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Re: checking in
« Reply #11 on: August 27, 2006, 11:23:51 PM »
((((((((((((((((((((mum)))))))))))))))))))))))
Congrats on being so brave and taking a huge step forward!! Please check in from time to time and let us know how you are doing.
Love, Beth
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Re: checking in
« Reply #12 on: August 27, 2006, 11:33:49 PM »
Hello mum,
it's nice to see a familiar, um, screenname.  Sounds as if your transition is going well!  And was a good move.  Thanks for checking in!
Plucky

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Re: checking in
« Reply #13 on: August 28, 2006, 09:39:35 AM »
Hiya Mum:

Very glad to hear that things are working out (and it's worth the effort eh?).   Life does suck sometimes but your positive attitude and determination will always pull you through.  Way to go Mum!!  Congratulations on your move!  I know you've been waiting a long time for it and I wish you every happiness in your new home.

 :D Sela


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Re: checking in
« Reply #14 on: August 28, 2006, 11:56:49 AM »
Wow. Thanks for the warm response...it IS like "seeing" old friends.

My life is nuts. I just (finally) got a teaching job...like, yesterday, and school starts Wednesday! Yikes. But I am very excited about it, as it was my goal to teach high school AND part time...and I got both, with benefits.

My son will be a few hours away in Boston, starting college, and my D will be in the HS (not the one I am teaching in). She is having a tough time transitioning, but she will express her anger and sadness about it to me, so at least there is that. Alternately, she is pretty excited and happy to be around aunts, uncles, cousins. Once school starts, I doubt she will have any time to sulk, as she does anticipate friends, fun and good grades (all of which she can create  for herself and she knows that).

Another tough thing for all of us, is simply the transition of living with just me, my son and daughter, to living with my husband, my daughter, NOT my son anymore, really (currently he is back in AZ), and then on occassion (like for the last whole week), my 10 year old step daughter, who, well, lets just say, has some challenges, personality wise!!! (manners, behavoir, and my husband is a wuss parentally....oh boy!)

So we have all had lots of changes....and of course my husband has gone from pretty much bachelorhood to a house full of dogs and women, essentially! When I step back, I can realize how comical it all is. Boxes everywhere, the house BADLY in need of painting (mind you I came from a house I had just totally renovated and redecorated to my taste), my husband trying to get me to like his (bad!) "taste" in decorating (marriage is compromise...marriage is compromise....marriage is compromise....)
Add to that, my family, who I looooove dearly, but who come with some dynamics I have not been around for years. And some dogs who have never experienced this environment: squirrels!!! geese!!! deer!!! chipmunks!!!  TOADS!!!! (my middle dog's note to self: baaaaaaaad......do not eat!!!!!!)

Anyhow, more later, and I will try to get up to speed with Y'all soon!!!