Dear October
Nice management-style email from your bro, he's in charge. I think he's responding to your words:
have spent the best part of a year nursing your anger, and taking it out on a 13 year old, her elderly grandparents and her mother.
and he wants to telephone Dad to say - is this true? Do you feel like this Dad? and he tells you this (why?) to get some superior move on you ("Dad doesn't agree with you...you're wrong").
and he wants to 'sort it out' to tell you that it's not true.
and he can't say it in writing (why not?) because he wants to convince you, in person, that it isn't true.
on the other hand, maybe he wants your forgiveness and help? Does it sound as though he wants your help?
You don't want him to visit? tell him. Tell him you don't feel up to a visit and can he write instead. ? (in other words, take back the control he's just taken from you by writing that email back to you)
Thanks, Portia. You are right, of course, except I didn't see your message in time.
See new thread. B has had control for two weeks, which have been very difficult for me. And he didn't turn up.
But I think I have now retaken control, and said, enough is really enough this time.
Thanks for being there, Portia. Feeling very isolated at present.
Just noticed something that Pennyplant said, that didn't register before. B heard what I said. I think I will hang onto that thought.
He may not like it, but he heard it. Does this mean I now have a voice?
