Lost My Job and Doubting Myself

[Bones]

Well Bones,
If bad things come in threes, you are all set for now.  Bummer, bummer, bummer!
Plucky

Thanks, Plucky.

Bones

[Bones]

I've had a chance to get some sleep and calm down from yesterday's Halloween fiasco.  I'm still trying to figure out why in the HECK she is consistently LATE for whatever it is?

Bones

[Stormchild]

Because people put up with it, and come back for more.

Not blaming you, Bones. But as long as she gets away with it and experiences no consequences, of course she'll keep right on doing it.

[Bones]

Because people put up with it, and come back for more.

Not blaming you, Bones. But as long as she gets away with it and experiences no consequences, of course she'll keep right on doing it.

I've given her consequences once before, culminating in my not speaking to her for three years.  This was before her mother developed Alzheimers.  The next time I speak with her, I'm going to remind her that the next time she asks me to accompany her somewhere, and she's not ready when it's time to go, I will simply go back home and let her think about how she impacts other people with this crap!  When she ignores the time, I'm getting the impression that she seems to think that no one else's schedule is important.

Bones

[Stormchild]

I've given her consequences once before, culminating in my not speaking to her for three years.

Oh, that is sad. It's disheartening to see them go right back to the same old same old without as much as a pause. After three years. That sets a record of some kind. I'm sorry, Bones.

Could I suggest that if there is a next time for accompanying her somewhere, you arrange to meet her at the destination instead, and start on time with whatever it is whether she is there or not? [Says the person who always drives herself to restaurants to meet her friends, and takes a book. Just because.]

[Bones]

I've given her consequences once before, culminating in my not speaking to her for three years.

Oh, that is sad. It's disheartening to see them go right back to the same old same old without as much as a pause. After three years. That sets a record of some kind. I'm sorry, Bones.

Could I suggest that if there is a next time for accompanying her somewhere, you arrange to meet her at the destination instead, and start on time with whatever it is whether she is there or not? [Says the person who always drives herself to restaurants to meet her friends, and takes a book. Just because.]

In the past, that would be feasible.  Now we have the added complication of her mother, with Alzheimer's, and she is the primary caretaker.  I had been assisting in helping with the mother as her condition is worsening.

Bones

[Bones]

BTW, I just another announcement of another job fair coming up on November 8th.  I have to check it out further to see which participants are going to be there that may be a good fit for the type of degree I have.

Bones

[Plucky]

Hi Bones,
you are going to be all right.  You are plugging away and doing all the right things.  Have you considered contacting any of your alumni groups for contacts?  You must have an indergraduate diploma and possible contacts in your field, also you just earned your advnaced degree, right?  How about the career assistance office at the university?  If you have done all this, sorry to be out of date.

Plucky

[Bones]

Hi Bones,
you are going to be all right.  You are plugging away and doing all the right things.  Have you considered contacting any of your alumni groups for contacts?  You must have an indergraduate diploma and possible contacts in your field, also you just earned your advnaced degree, right?  How about the career assistance office at the university?  If you have done all this, sorry to be out of date.

Plucky

Thanks, Plucky!  Good suggestion.  At the same time, now might not be a good time to contact my alma mater where I got my Bachelor's degree.  I graduated from Gallaudet University and the place has been in the news off and on since May of this year due to the president-select (who is a HUGE "N") trying to dig in her heels.  The BoT FINALLY saw sense and reversed their decision.  Now they need to go through the process of searching for a new prez and, this time, make the process transparent, fair, and more diverse.  (BTW, I used to work under the "N" and she was a B____!  I'm glad she has finally been ousted!)

Bones

[pennyplant]

Bones, I saw that story on the news, but didn't hear the details.  Did they talk about her personality or narcissism openly?

PP

[gratitude28]

I saw that story today too. Just curious, bones, do you have a hearing impairment?
Is she really awful? The story made her sound as if she were fighting back somewhat successfully. Of course, the news we get is so limited here.
How are your teeth, bones? I hope I am bringing up a subject that has been put in the past
Love, Beth

[Bones]

I saw that story today too. Just curious, bones, do you have a hearing impairment?
Is she really awful? The story made her sound as if she were fighting back somewhat successfully. Of course, the news we get is so limited here.
How are your teeth, bones? I hope I am bringing up a subject that has been put in the past
Love, Beth

I'm hearing.  I worked at, as well as attended, Gallaudet University and yes, she is really awful.  She is arrogant, dismissive, and is completely disinterested in anyone else's point of view.  She has consistently demonstrated to those of us, who were unfortunate enough to encounter her, that THE ONLY IMPORTANT OPINION is hers and hers alone....her way or the highway.  She attempted to convince everyone that she was THE ONLY ONE WHO COULD LEAD Gallaudet.  She eliminated many departments and a lot of jobs, including mine.  I couldn't help but notice that the departments and people she targeted for layoffs were anybody and everybody who dared to refuse to march in lockstep with her.  Her attitude finally created "Instant Karma" for her...."What goes around, comes around".

I had to go back to the dentist today to have the final impressions made so that the lab can commence creating the permanent crown.  The dentist had to numb me up again, while she probed around my gums, so everything is back to aching for awhile.  Hopefully, the permanent crown will be ready in two weeks.

Bones

[Hopalong]

I hope you still have good memories of Galludet, Bones...
I have found what I've read about deaf culture, and that university, really fascinating.
Are you fluent in ASL?

(Just trying to take your mind off your teeth... )

Hops

[Bones]

I hope you still have good memories of Galludet, Bones...
I have found what I've read about deaf culture, and that university, really fascinating.
Are you fluent in ASL?

(Just trying to take your mind off your teeth... )

Hops

Thanks, Hops!

I'm good at Sign Language.  (There's different dialects, mine is more English word order than ASL which has its own syntax.)  I just came home from an all day workshop on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (fascinating!).  I need to re-read the material before I can share it in depth.  As I was learning this, it reminded me of some of the discussions we have on this Board (including Borderline Personality Disorder).

Bones

[Bones]

In the meantime, I'm still following up with the Board concerning the situation at my last job.  I've been advised to revise my letter and make it more specific about the "supervisor" who was supposed to have the responsibility of supervising and training me.  I just e-mailed that revised letter to the Board a little while ago.

Bones