Lost My Job and Doubting Myself

[BonesMS]

That's very good news Bones!!!! 

Thanks, MountainSpring.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Boyfriend didn't help much last night.  After I told him what happened with the county agency, he comes out with some lame platitude that wasn't helpful and I finally started yelling and screamng in frustration!  After nine straight months of attempting to calmly cope with this, I just couldn't hold it in or push it down any more.

Bones

[BonesMS]

[fter nine straight months of attempting to calmly cope with this, I just couldn't hold it in or push it down any more.]



Dear Bones,
   I think that within the next 2 weeks, you will have a good job. It is a feeling that I have.  With Warmth and Hope ,   Amii

Thanks, Ami.

I'm at the stage where I'm starting to yell and scream every day as I don't know what else to do right now.

Bones

[BonesMS]

And I'm feeling like talking to boyfriend is like talking to a "Black Hole".  It makes me wonder if he is a Passive-Aggressive N who ignores everything outside of his personal little "bubble".

Bones

[CB123]

Hi, Bones,

This is a really hard time for you.  I have read that a lot of people go through this when they are first out of school and there is  a lag time until the first professional job.  And it's nerve wracking after all the time and money you have put into getting a professional degree. 

When you say you yell and scream every day, what do you mean?  Beating on a pillow and yelling to take out frustration?  Yelling at your boyfriend? 

I'll be thinking of you today and hoping for an unexpected and amazing phone call about a job.

CB

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones,                                                                                                                                 
   Join the club. Now that I am getting well, I don't know who the ##### my husband is?????
                                                                                                                          Ami

                                                                                                                     




                                                                   

It makes me wonder what parts of their brains (your husband and my boyfriend) are missing?????????

Bones

[BonesMS]

Hi, Bones,

This is a really hard time for you.  I have read that a lot of people go through this when they are first out of school and there is  a lag time until the first professional job.  And it's nerve wracking after all the time and money you have put into getting a professional degree. 

When you say you yell and scream every day, what do you mean?  Beating on a pillow and yelling to take out frustration?  Yelling at your boyfriend? 

I'll be thinking of you today and hoping for an unexpected and amazing phone call about a job.

CB

Thanks, CB.

I've been yelling and screaming at my boyfriend.  Part of my frustration is that many of the places I have applied to are not interested in hiring someone who is 50+.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I've been yelling and screaming at my boyfriend.  Part of my frustration is that many of the places I have applied to are not interested in hiring someone who is 50+]




Dear Bones,
 I would have thought that you would be seen as someone who could contribute more""life experience".This surprises me. that age  would be such a negative factor.
   WHY is that- do you think?                                                                  Warmly, Ami

I've been doing some research into this and talking with other members of AARP.  Apparently, because of the health insurance provided by these employers (i.e. HMOs), employers are skittish about hiring anyone over 40 because they believe we will be more expensive.  I have my own health insurance through my civil service retirement so they shouldn't have to worry about providing me insurance.  Unfortunately, they won't let me get that far to explain that.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I just got word that the interview that I had on Friday, May 4th, didn't pan out.  They have decided not to hire me.  I'm back at square one.

Bones

[Stormchild]

Oh, DAMN! Bones, this is just sickening!

[Stormchild]

Bones... a thought.

If you are displaying a date of birth on your resumé, keep doing that, but consider adding another line beneath it:

"Health: excellent; Health Insurance: U.S. Government Retirement Plan"

[or however you would say it]

In other words, take the bull$hi+ by the horns. Who knows? You might actually get someone who can both read and comprehend, scanning your CV.

[BonesMS]

Bones... a thought.

If you are displaying a date of birth on your resumé, keep doing that, but consider adding another line beneath it:

"Health: excellent; Health Insurance: U.S. Government Retirement Plan"

[or however you would say it]

In other words, take the bull$hi+ by the horns. Who knows? You might actually get someone who can both read and comprehend, scanning your CV.

Hi, Stormy.

I'm not displaying my date of birth anywhere.  Also, it's illegal for any employer to ask applicants for that information.  One response I got from another AARP member suggested that I either babysit or sell handcrafts.  (I did that in high school and got badly burned when it came to payment.  Nobody wanted to pay.  They tried to force me to work for free.  Also, in order to earn enough from babysitting, I would need to be licensed and I'm not patient with children anymore.  I've never been a mother.  I've done eldersitting for a friend of mine whose  mother has Alzheimer's.  However, she's reaching the stage of the disease where she needs specially trained nurses.)  Age discrimination SUCKS!!!!!

Bones

[BonesMS]

Sorry, Bones. what a discouraging and disheartening thing when you worked so hard for your degree.
 I am still awaiting "good news"on the job front.                  Love to You  Ami

Thanks, Ami.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I'm still trying to keep my eyes open for possible opportunities.  I've even set up job search agents at various websites.  I don't know how to avoid getting discouraged.

Bones

[Hopalong]

Hi Bones,
I told people in recent interviews, in a light way, "By the way, I bring my own health insurance because I retired early from the state." And I just act glad that this is a burden I can relieve them of.

I think in small concerns, that's an offer that many would find appealing. It's the upside of hiring older employees.

Don't give up! I was just sinking into despair when I got the most pleasant job I've had in many years.

hugs,
Hops