Lost My Job and Doubting Myself

[mountainspring]

I'm sorry Bones... I was hoping it would help. 

[BonesMS]

I'm sorry Bones... I was hoping it would help. 

I was hoping it would help as well.  I feel like I'm banging my head on a brick wall with every effort I  make to search for a job.

Bones

[Hopalong]

Hi Bones,
I think you need some time with a puppy.

Can you access a part of you that's willing to create a celebration of your graduation for yourself, even fueling it all on your own, even though your preference would be for your partner to show interest?

I mean, can you psych yourself up to be full of cheer and be happy about this ANYWAY? I dunno, rent the Putt Putt or something, do something silly with a few nice people and tell them you're celebrating your graduation?

I just feel sad at the idea of you denying yourself a celebration because of:
1) the bf
2) the employer who hasn't found you yet

hugs
Hops

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones,
I think you need some time with a puppy.

Can you access a part of you that's willing to create a celebration of your graduation for yourself, even fueling it all on your own, even though your preference would be for your partner to show interest?

I mean, can you psych yourself up to be full of cheer and be happy about this ANYWAY? I dunno, rent the Putt Putt or something, do something silly with a few nice people and tell them you're celebrating your graduation?

I just feel sad at the idea of you denying yourself a celebration because of:
1) the bf
2) the employer who hasn't found you yet

hugs
Hops

Right now I don't have much energy to do that kind of planning.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I just received a postcard, yesterday, acknowledging receipt of one of my job applications.  I have to wait and see what happens in that corner.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I should probably wait a couple of weeks to see if I hear anything further from them.  After that, I guess I'll have to let that one go too.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Any feedback?

Bones

[Hopalong]

Hi Bones,
Do you think you're depressed? You sound quite down, sort of flat.
Couldn't blame you... looooooooooong job hunts are the worst.

I was wondering if you're seeing a therapist and/or in a support group.
The other thing was I was wondering if you exercise.

(I slacked off for months and am trying to get myself to start again.)

hang in there...
Hops

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones,
Do you think you're depressed? You sound quite down, sort of flat.
Couldn't blame you... looooooooooong job hunts are the worst.

I was wondering if you're seeing a therapist and/or in a support group.
The other thing was I was wondering if you exercise.

(I slacked off for months and am trying to get myself to start again.)

hang in there...
Hops

The pool just opened today so I was able to go for a swim.  I'm a bit leery of therapists after I got burned by the last one.  I'm not quite certain if there is an ongoing support group around here for unemployed people searching for work.  I do plan to go back to the pool tomorrow afternoon.

Thanks!

Bones

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones,
   I think that you mentioned that you may have had addictions. What about contacts from  local AA ,NA or Al-anon groups?
  Sorry to hear about your difficulties on the  job path.   Much Love and Hugs To you           Ami

My home group is aware that I'm still job hunting.  I don't have the urge to drink or drug at this situation as I know that it will make it worse and make me even more unemployable.

Bones

[BonesMS]

BTW, I know I am also dealing with depression.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones,
  I have an idea. You could give some free workshops or lectures.You might find clients. How about  going to business's. Sometimes, they employ people who help with employee's addiction problems?
                                                 Thinking of you                                                                                   Love Ami         

Thanks, Ami.

Part of the complication is needing to meet the state's requirement to be certified or licensed, which includes getting experiential hours.  That's where the Catch-22 comes in.

Bones

[BonesMS]

The Catch-22 being...in order to work in this field, I must be certified or licensed.

In order to become certified or licensed, I must obtain experiential hours.

In order to obtain these required experiential hours, I must work with
a Board-approved supervisor in a licensed facility.

The licensed facility demands that I be certified BEFORE they will consider
hiring me to get the required experiential hours needed.

ICK!

Bones

[Hopalong]

It's hard to network when you're depressed, but can you start doing that Bones?

Attending any meeting you can get access to for people in your field,
volunteering at any appropriate associations, etc.

These are ways to meet people in the field you want to work in. Ask for any related opportunity, even if it's volunteer, and do your utmost job. Then ask the supervising PhD to take you on.

Or something similar?

Hops

[BonesMS]

It's hard to network when you're depressed, but can you start doing that Bones?

Attending any meeting you can get access to for people in your field,
volunteering at any appropriate associations, etc.

These are ways to meet people in the field you want to work in. Ask for any related opportunity, even if it's volunteer, and do your utmost job. Then ask the supervising PhD to take you on.

Or something similar?

Hops

Even volunteering has encountered the same Catch-22 issues and I have been attempting to network as well for about three years straight.  My energy is depleted.

Bones