Lost My Job and Doubting Myself

[Hopalong]

Hi Bones,
I think there are always dramas and dysfunctions in workplaces...(they're just more structured versions of families, alas).

If it's not overwhelmingly toxic, can you hang on?

It was so hard for you to be hunting.

Hops

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones,
I think there are always dramas and dysfunctions in workplaces...(they're just more structured versions of families, alas).

If it's not overwhelmingly toxic, can you hang on?

It was so hard for you to be hunting.

Hops

I'm not sure how viable the program is going to be able to remain if it cannot get administrative/supervisory staff on board.

Bones

[BonesMS]

The reason I'm saying that is because of what I'm hearing my brand-new supervisor saying the very first day I met her.  (She's ready to quit!)

Bones

[Hopalong]

I read that.

But Bones, listen. YOU are in this job to create YOUR experience of employment. Not to absorb hers as your own.

You make this, to the best of your ability, YOUR OWN opportunity.
Compared to unemployment and no prospects...you are way way ahead.

Grab this confidently as an important rung on the ladder ... not the top of the ladder.
Work hard and ACT POSITIVE even if things don't look that way or you don't feel that way.

IMHO.
hugs
Hops

[BonesMS]

I read that.

But Bones, listen. YOU are in this job to create YOUR experience of employment. Not to absorb hers as your own.

You make this, to the best of your ability, YOUR OWN opportunity.
Compared to unemployment and no prospects...you are way way ahead.

Grab this confidently as an important rung on the ladder ... not the top of the ladder.
Work hard and ACT POSITIVE even if things don't look that way or you don't feel that way.

IMHO.
hugs
Hops

Thanks, Hops!

I hear what you are saying.  One of my concerns is based on what happened in another prison system that is now shut down.  With the way a prison system is set up, all it takes is for one other staff person to do the wrong thing or the program loses enough people for the prison administrators to decide to shut it all down.

Bones

[teartracks]

Hi Bones,

It's hard to settle in when things are so tentative.  I'm hoping it all levels out.  In the meantime,  all you can do is all you can do.  Try not to worry about the thngs you can't change.  How is the commute going?  I picture you absorbed with a good book to pass the time.   Sending my best wishes as you navigate the challenges of the system.

tt

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones,

It's hard to settle in when things are so tentative.  I'm hoping it all levels out.  In the meantime,  all you can do is all you can do.  Try not to worry about the thngs you can't change.  How is the commute going?  I picture you absorbed with a good book to pass the time.   Sending my best wishes as you navigate the challenges of the system.

tt

Thanks, TT.

Since I'm the one doing the driving, being absorbed in a good book isn't feasible due to the distraction.

Bones

[axa]

Bones,

I agree that every workplace has its difficult people and situations its about learning to deal with them.  I know that I am not too skilled in this area and I have chosen to work for myself as it has felt safer.  I am now beginning to think that I feel stronger and could deal with the difficulties of a team in a more dispassionate way.  The only thing you have control over is how you respond to what goes on.  Breath, breath and post.

[BonesMS]

Bones,

I agree that every workplace has its difficult people and situations its about learning to deal with them.  I know that I am not too skilled in this area and I have chosen to work for myself as it has felt safer.  I am now beginning to think that I feel stronger and could deal with the difficulties of a team in a more dispassionate way.  The only thing you have control over is how you respond to what goes on.  Breath, breath and post.

Thanks, Axa.

I just finished DOC training today so I'll be going back to my new office tomorrow and see what awaits there.

Bones

[teartracks]

Ooops!

I'm not lucid, but thank goodness you are Bones. 

I'm hoping the best for you and the job. 

tt

[BonesMS]

Ooops!

I'm not lucid, but thank goodness you are Bones. 

I'm hoping the best for you and the job. 

tt

Thanks, TT.

Things were rough at the office today.  I need to calm down before I go into the details.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Working in a prison setting is hectic, if not insane, to say the least!  The prison administrators seem to have a hard time communicating efficiently with EVERYONE while changing the rules one day, disregarding them the next, then SCREAMING at us for FOLLOWING their directions and DOING what they tell us to do!!  It's crazy-making!!!

Bones

[BonesMS]

I've been on this job, at the prison, since June 4th and it is so frustrating that I'm ready to chuck it somewhere!

Bones

[Hopalong]

I wish I could help, Bones.
I'm really sorry.

Some jobs ARE hell.

Hops

[BonesMS]

And I just learned from a reliable source that the prison administrators do NOT want the Addiction Treatment program in their prison and consider us a "waste of space".  That may be the motivation behind the various nonsense stuff that the prison administrators keep dumping on us, attempting to make it impossible to do our jobs to the maximum of our abilities.  I've experienced having my basic tools taken away from me because "they are not made of clear plastic".  I'm trying to take notes on the clients' behaviors and the clients do NOT need to see what I am writing!!!!!!!  The prison administrators don't care!  Sheesh!!!!!

Bones