Lost My Job and Doubting Myself

[Stormchild]

Whew, Bones. What a mess...

[teartracks]

((((((((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))))))

tt

[BonesMS]

 

that is a GOOD sign, Bones! You know this but validation always helps

Thanks, Stormy.

There is a major hurdle that needs to be resolved yesterday, and that is in regards to the Counselor-in-Training paperwork and the required appropriate supervision that all  trainees MUST have.  Today, I was informed that I was expected to conduct a session of group therapy...ALONE...in this prison setting.  Officially, I am still a counselor-in-training and that designation is NOT certified.  Trainees are NOT supposed to be conducting group therapy, or individual counseling sessions, without close supervision by a Board-approved supervisor.  The Maryland regulations are strict about that and the Licensing Board are sticklers about that for good reason.  This protects the clients, the trainees and the substance abuse treatment program.  My supervisor, who is a transplant from out of state, doesn't understand the ramifications of that.  I asked her to please get clarification on the Maryland COMAR Regs BEFORE we find all of ourselves in a bad mess.

Bones

BTW,

I've sent an e-mail to the Maryland Board with a list of questions that I have to see if I can get some clarification.  I would HATE to find out, 90 days to one year later, that NONE of my work counts toward my licensure because of what the program administrators did or did not do!  If my asking these hard questions costs me this job, then I guess that is a sacrifice I will have to make.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Whew, Bones. What a mess...

Thanks, Stormy.

Bones

[BonesMS]

((((((((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))))))

tt

Thanks, TT.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I still have not heard anything back from the Board yet.  If I have not heard anything from them, one way or the other, by the beginning of July, I guess I'll need to find the phone number of the correct contact person and give that person a call.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I've finally received an e-mail from the Board and I'm preparing to respond to the answers they sent me.

I've also have the feeling that one of my clients has NPD as he was acting out in class this morning.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Just need to vent a bit as working in a prison environment can be a pain in the a$$!

Bones

[debkor]

Bones,

Must be a very difficult place to work and scary.

Deb

[BonesMS]

Bones,

Must be a very difficult place to work and scary.

Deb

Thanks, Deb!

It is a very difficult place to work because of the prison administrators who do not want us there.  Right before my office mates and I left the office for the weekend, we were informed that beginning Monday, NONE of us women will be allowed to come to work wearing any underwire bras.  Many of my office mates are large women, one of them pregnant with twins, and they DEPEND on underwires to give them the support they have to have.  It was also suggested that we switch to "sports bras" to avoid the underwire.  I've yet to see any sports bra, especially maternity style, for the sizes of women in my office!

SHEESH!!!!!

Bones

[changing]

Hello Bones-

Hope you are feeling better. I have a hard time reading the title of this post. My NH has not worked for a long time, and said that he didn't want to work again. He doesn't help at home, and basically said that he doesn't care about me at all, and I asked him to leave. The rage, abandonement, adictions and spending were bringing on a disaster, financially and emotionally. I tried to support him and encourage him, but in the face of his rejection of me as a woman and a person (pornography), and the damage that he continued to do, I gave him an ultimatum. I hope that I wasn't wrong. He said that I was kicking him when he was down. I really did my best, but he refused to help me or to block out any time for me, for us, lied about everything, and sabotaged my efforts to keep us afloat. He has money that we saved , and said that he planned to leave when his lawsuit settled, anyway, and that he despised me. I hope that I wasn't cruel to him.
Please nourish yourself with music and nature. You are more than your job or situation. Your identity is an intangible one, unique and worthy.

Hugs,

Changing

[BonesMS]

Hello Bones-

Hope you are feeling better. I have a hard time reading the title of this post. My NH has not worked for a long time, and said that he didn't want to work again. He doesn't help at home, and basically said that he doesn't care about me at all, and I asked him to leave. The rage, abandonement, adictions and spending were bringing on a disaster, financially and emotionally. I tried to support him and encourage him, but in the face of his rejection of me as a woman and a person (pornography), and the damage that he continued to do, I gave him an ultimatum. I hope that I wasn't wrong. He said that I was kicking him when he was down. I really did my best, but he refused to help me or to block out any time for me, for us, lied about everything, and sabotaged my efforts to keep us afloat. He has money that we saved , and said that he planned to leave when his lawsuit settled, anyway, and that he despised me. I hope that I wasn't cruel to him.
Please nourish yourself with music and nature. You are more than your job or situation. Your identity is an intangible one, unique and worthy.

Hugs,

Changing

Thanks, Changing, and don't let that N-Slimeball beat you down emotionally.  It sounds like he despises women, in general, by objectifying us and, at the same time, DEMANDS that we pamper and diaper him!  I would prefer to put my foot up where the sun will never shine on him!

Bones

[changing]

My Dear Bones-

You are aptly named! As I read your post, I felt a strange sensation, and voila! I felt my spine returning! And now, my "funny bone"! I had my first real laugh of the day.

Thank you again for finding my missing skeletal parts.

Hugs,

Changing

[BonesMS]

My Dear Bones-

You are aptly named! As I read your post, I felt a strange sensation, and voila! I felt my spine returning! And now, my "funny bone"! I had my first real laugh of the day.

Thank you again for finding my missing skeletal parts.

Hugs,

Changing

 

You're very welcome!

Bones

I'll be keeping y'all posted about how things go at the "zoo" tomorrow.

Bones

[BonesMS]

This prison job is still stressful because of a variety of stuff going on.  I'm also trying to get certification questions resolved so I don't end up being stuck with working a lot of hours that can't be applied toward my certification and/or licensure.

Bones