Author Topic: Insecurity & end of relationship  (Read 4377 times)

Hopalong

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Re: Insecurity & end of relationship
« Reply #15 on: September 19, 2006, 11:50:05 PM »
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how many things you are doing so well inspite of the wobblyness

Ditto to GS for Write! Hear, hear!

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Re: Insecurity & end of relationship
« Reply #16 on: September 20, 2006, 12:57:33 AM »
You are so kind. Thank you so much for getting me through this. I love you both.

I was looking for your peace quote when I remembered this old favourite, I know it by heart, Yeats:

When you are old and grey and full of sleep,
And nodding by the fire, take down this book,
And slowly read, and dream of the soft look
Your eyes had once, and of their shadows deep;
How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true,
But one man loved the pilgrim Soul in you,
And loved the sorrows of your changing face;
And bending down beside the glowing bars,
Murmur, a little sadly, how Love fled
And paced upon the mountains overhead
And hid his face amid a crowd of stars.

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I think that's how my ex and I are- people who have loved the pilgrim soul in each other, we have certainly tested each other and clung to each other, and now I think we'll let go of each other.

At work today a colleague said 'no matter how much you know it's right there's a part of you hates it and doesn't want to let go'.

I've never done this before- moved through something and experienced all the emotions.
It's giving me a new strength.

My son said to me 'moan moan moan, mum!' but in a good-hearted way. I explained to him earlier that his dad and I are having emotional responses to the end of our marriage, I think he understands.

Time for a sleep! Goodnight, G_d bless.

WRITE

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Re: Insecurity & end of relationship
« Reply #17 on: September 20, 2006, 10:43:08 AM »
Just been for a walk in the cool fresh autumn day, the birds were singing, leaves falling, I found a blue jay feather trophy.

Off to see my friend's baby now- always one of my favourite things to do, have a good chat with someone who hasn't learned to talk yet!

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Re: Insecurity & end of relationship
« Reply #18 on: September 20, 2006, 10:56:13 AM »
have a good chat with someone who hasn't learned to talk yet!

 :lol: :D 8)

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Re: Insecurity & end of relationship
« Reply #19 on: September 20, 2006, 11:24:23 AM »
Lol (((((((((Write))))))))))  Enjoy!

Love,
Hope

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Re: Insecurity & end of relationship
« Reply #20 on: September 20, 2006, 03:40:30 PM »
Oh, WRITE...

This is a huge, huge change in your life.  I would think that your journey would be filled with ups and downs as you move through this.  Just dealing with the uncertainty of what is next must be unsettling.  I would think that your feelings are much more common than uncommon - even if  you desire for this union to be dissolved.  How about some support in this area - a divorce support group?

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Re: Insecurity & end of relationship
« Reply #21 on: September 20, 2006, 05:39:43 PM »
Write ,

It is so hard to let go of what we thought our life was going to look like.
We still can have our memories. But when going thu the
"letting go" it is not easy.And things will get easier.

I was looking at quotes for Hops thread
"TAKE ONE'S LIFE IN ONE'S ARMS"BY Arthur Miller

"When you look back on your life it looks as though it were a plot,but when you are into it , it's a mess just one surprise after another,Then , later you see it was perfect" By Schopenhauer

Write I went out into nature last week end The whole day brought peace.I know what you mean I had a good chat with a 9 month old
my sis in law's niece Oh what a luvbug

Much love to you

MoonLight


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Re: Insecurity & end of relationship
« Reply #22 on: September 20, 2006, 07:31:45 PM »
Write,

What did the baby TELL you????

(I love their language and their laughter and their openness SO MUCH...)

 :)

What an excellent thing to do for yourself.
(I'm thinking of volunteering at the church nursery for some of the same medicine.)

Thanks for telling us...you are SO open to what is good, I know you're going to be fine.

hugs,
Hops
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."