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gratitude28

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More N Tricks
« on: September 19, 2006, 11:32:54 PM »
I guess I buried some of the annoying things that happened this summer in my happiness to be back on my side of the Earth after the "vacation." But they are cropping up and I wanted to share with you all what a fun time it was  :?

I told you my mother tried hobbling out on a cane in the morning, crying and saying how bad her back hurt... I told her I would take her to the doctor if she needed... didn't get excited... and that trick passed rather quickly since it didn't elicit the response she hoped for.

So, each morning after that, she would come out and put her parrot on her shoulder, the kids thought it was cute, but didn't get wildly excited, so she would sit and play the organ for them. That didn't "work" so she tried to get my daughter to "pet" the bird, knowing it bites. I was pissed about that, needless to say.

She pulled out her gems she bought from QVC, thinking we would be amazingly impressed. We told her they were pretty and looked at them all. Then she pulled out all the other things she had bought to show us.

The first night I asked if they wanted me to cook dinner as I had brought them some fresh stuff from Texas. They said they did, but when I started cooking, she kept getting in my way, telling me to use this or that pan, moving things around, etc, until I finally snapped at her. She was so pleased to have gotten me to that point! She then ate what I ahd made, grimacing but claiming it was the most delicious thing she had had in a long time.

She was jealous that I bought a fairly expensive necklace downtown and vowed to buy one like it as soon as possible.

Her house is a sty, but if you go to put anything away, you get instructions on how to place it.

We went to dinner one night and I was looking at some of my sister's pictures. In one of them, she was at a reception and wearing a dress that was not completely flattering. Of course I had no plans on mentioning the dress. I asked about the picture and my mother chimes in, "Don't you dare tell her she looks fat in that dress." I snapped back that I had no plans to say that. When we got to the restaurant, she pulled me aside (but in a way that everyone noticed) and said I needed to stop getting so annoyed with her. I told her I wasn't annoyed and that she had put words in my mouth that I had no intention of saying. She let it go since she wasn't getting anything out of it.

Thanks for letting me get these out. They were a bit too "fresh" when i just got home.

Love you all,
Beth
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Re: More N Tricks
« Reply #1 on: September 19, 2006, 11:45:44 PM »
Gratitude

I'm so glad you shared that.  It sounds that those experiences were annoying.  But it also sounds that you dealt with being with her fairly well.  Do you feel good about your reactions?

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« Reply #2 on: September 19, 2006, 11:51:30 PM »
Yes, I felt good about the reactions. But I also felt like I was in some kind of dumb damned play the whole time I was there. The huge difference from when I was a kid is that I knew the play didn't have to go on endlessly... I would be leaving in a short time. It was horribly depressing when that play was my daily existence.
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« Reply #3 on: September 19, 2006, 11:53:17 PM »
((((((Beth))))))  She sounds so very much like my aunt...it's spooky. I'm glad you're "home" now and I know for me, it helps to get these things out of the system and off my chest. Somehow it defuses their power, I think. What a blessing that we can share these things here... so many people wouldn't be able to understand. Hope you have a wonderful ... oops, it's Wednesday there, isn't it... a wonderful day!

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Hope

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Re: More N Tricks
« Reply #4 on: September 20, 2006, 12:22:11 AM »
Hope,
Thank you so much for reminding me that this group is my sanity! Can you imagine telling these things to "normal" people and having them understand????????
Thank you all for giving me this place and this feeback and validation.
Thank you Dr Grossman...
Beth
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« Reply #5 on: September 20, 2006, 07:24:50 AM »
Beth

She pulled out her gems she bought from QVC, thinking we would be amazingly impressed. We told her they were pretty and looked at them all.

That was kind of you and necessary I think. About your purchase, it pressed the envy button didn't it?

So glad you're here Beth, you remind me that sanity exists! Thank you. 8)

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« Reply #6 on: September 20, 2006, 03:30:47 PM »
Beth,

You survived it and grew from it.  I am so proud of you for refusing to feed into your mom's behavior.  I identified with several of your items, by the way. 

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« Reply #7 on: September 20, 2006, 09:28:22 PM »
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Hope,
Thank you so much for reminding me that this group is my sanity! Can you imagine telling these things to "normal" people and having them understand????????
Thank you all for giving me this place and this feeback and validation.
Thank you Dr Grossman...
Beth

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