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Hopalong

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Just Need Support
« on: September 20, 2006, 01:32:08 AM »
I am growing increasingly scared
The pressure at work...my job is all intellectual and my mind freezes under great pressure from Nboss
Six weeks to go before my income vanishes, no job...
Back pain
Mom failing and clinging
Daughter-sized hole in heart

thank you,
Hops
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."

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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #1 on: September 20, 2006, 07:02:07 AM »
You got it babe ((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hops))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

huge big clingy barnacle hug from old Blighty :D :D :D

getting a bright 25 yr old ready for your job eh?

I was told by a TARTY interviewer (haha not very PC of me but hey, she was! :o) young 'en, via a third party, that going back into that work scene would be a 'shock' for me. Oh yes dearie, creaking knees as I try and winch myself up out of the seat to punch her on the nose. Just kidding. i don't approve of any physical violence but it helps to fantasise... :mrgreen:

If you failed at the tasks he's giving you, what would happen? if you were much less than 100% perfect? What would happen? Can he really give you a bad reference - would that be legal?  What if you went off sick with......ooooo...a broken leg? What would happen then? hey can this young bright one take over sooner rather than later? pile it on if you can, why not?

Hoping for Hops

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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #2 on: September 20, 2006, 08:16:11 AM »
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hops))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))  Don't you just HATE the major stresses of life?  So if you have six weeks before you are laid off or whatever, get on the internet and post your resume (or talk to me about my ground level business!! :) )

Hopefully your daughter will come around.

The best therapy I have had in the past week is to champion little me - so I have been trying extremely hard to enjoy life.  Look at sunrises and sunsets..............look at landscaping.  Take walks...... 

You're in my thoughts and prayers!
Kelly
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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #3 on: September 20, 2006, 10:01:35 AM »
I'm sorry Hops.  I really don't have any words of wisdom to offer, but I hope you can find some bright spots to focus on, in between the scary and troublesome times.

((((((((((Hops)))))))))))))

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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #4 on: September 20, 2006, 10:36:52 AM »
here's some ->

\_O-O_/

That's a bra ( you can see why I am dropping weight...)

  :)

Will write more sensibly later.

Pm me any time.

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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #5 on: September 20, 2006, 12:47:37 PM »
Well, Hops, I don't think I can top WRITE'S bra!!!!  It made me laugh, I hope you laughed too.

Laughing might work.  Do you know any Irish people?  I know a half Irish guy who tells the best "true stories" and it is so cathartic to listen to him tell these funny stories.  In fact, he laughs at himself telling them and can sometimes barely get them out from laughing too much.  So, I would say you need to meet an Irish guy as soon as possible.

Ah, the other stuff though.  Well, you've got to feel those feelings too.  Some scheduled crying might do the trick.  We used to read this book, when my son was small, about an owl that made tearwater tea.  He would think of everything sad and cry and cry and catch all those tears in a tea pot.  When he had enough to make tea with, he stopped crying and made the tea and drank it.  I wish I could remember the name of the book.  Pretty wise I think.  Well, of course.  It was about an owl.  To whit, to whoo, to whit, to whoo.

So, that's what I recommend.  Laughing and crying.  Plus, the "slacking off" that I suggested on another thread  :wink: .

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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #6 on: September 20, 2006, 03:48:31 PM »
Okay, Hops...  I'll just go ahead and "say" this out loud.  This just plain stinks! 

You are in the "big icky" right now.  It will pass, but what a crummy place to be.  What happened with your daughter?  I thought things were looking up and you were feeling more encouraged. 

Dig in and hang on.  God didn't bring you this far to drop you on your head now.  You are obviously tremendously talented.  Any employer  who watches the dirt kick up behind your back tires  and isn't running frantically down the road after you to offer you a job is probably not someone you would be happy working for anyway. 

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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #7 on: September 20, 2006, 04:59:45 PM »
(((((((Hops)))))))  I hope you find a good job soon. 

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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #8 on: September 20, 2006, 07:17:08 PM »
Just got here, Hops -- just saw this.

((((((((((Hops))))))))))
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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #9 on: September 20, 2006, 07:17:34 PM »
I've thought them all through carefully and I think I'd like to choose a half-Irishman wearing Write's old bra who's chasing me down the road with a teapot because he wants to drive me off into the sunset (over my boss) and tell me endlessly funny stories, punctuated with understanding barnacly, spaniely hugs.

SUPPORT DOESN'T GET MUCH GREATER THAN THIS!

(Okay, okay. The boiled-down truth is I realllllllly want athe Irishman.)

Love and grateful thanks,

Hops

PS--ANS, see "Just a Vent Before I Go" thread for daughter update...thanks for caring.
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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #10 on: September 20, 2006, 09:30:42 PM »
Hoppy,
are you in a place where there is a dole?  Can you get unemployment income?  Could you look into that just in case you need it?  Also, you can stay where you are even with no income, right?  Or with a smaller income?
Plucky

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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #11 on: September 20, 2006, 09:51:46 PM »
I've thought them all through carefully and I think I'd like to choose a half-Irishman wearing Write's old bra who's chasing me down the road with a teapot because he wants to drive me off into the sunset (over my boss)

 :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

you can write like this and you're worried about making a living?

( and that's my best bra I'll have you know... :) )

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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #12 on: September 21, 2006, 12:01:08 AM »
THIS TOO SHALL PASS

But it doesn't mean it doesn't suck right now.

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hops))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Sending you love and comfort. I was in the major dumps about a month ago and thought I'd never get back out. Soon you'll be on the other side.

Love you,
Beth
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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #13 on: September 21, 2006, 04:33:47 AM »
 :) Thanks, ((((((((((((((alll)))))))))))))))))

Plucky, if I have no new job by Nov. 1 I have to take early retirement (no way I could stay retired) for access to group health insurance...if I retire from the state I get their insurance rates for life (not cheap but much better than private benefits) ... not sure how that effects unemployment ins. but I'll certainly be finding out. All the legalities are a headached, mountains of forms and stuff but I'll take it one thing at a time. I would lose all the other benefits which have meant a lot (insurance for my D, long-term care insurance...even though they'd offer me a individual policy I couldn't ever afford it), etc.

I will have a roof over my head as long as my mother is alive. Lately I've been wondering whether this winter could be her last. I do obsess about security and need to stop it, just take care of what I can.

Worrisome things are medical costs above insurance, my dying car, my D's need to move soon for school....and some debt. Not a mountain but not easy to pay off on the dole, so to speak. I'll manage, and freelance some if I have to. (Really hate it since as you know I'm a procrastinator, hence deadlines are awful for me even though I have the skill.)

Enough babbling about me but thanks for caring, everyone.
I feel it!

love,
Hops
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Re: Just Need Support
« Reply #14 on: September 21, 2006, 11:41:35 AM »
Gosh I'm sorry Hops -

That's an awful lot of stress piled up so high.  No wonder your back is giving you so much pain.  I'm sending you courage to develop a vision all the stars aligning to set you free.  It is easier to fall into the vision of the worst.  Expend some energy now to envision the best.    I'm going to take my own advise and hold a vision of a much better life right now.  Let's do this together.

Your friend - GS