My Shame

[adrift]

2bb

My mom lingered just like your dad is doing.  Almost 2 weeks without any fluids of any kind.  It was horrible, but she wouldn't let go and go, if you know what I mean.  I feel for you and your family and will say a prayer.

Adrift

HAHA Thanks CH

Interesting day, am back in OZ for a week or so with my lovely foo. Dad is on his last breaths (been hospitalised for months - final cancer stages)

Poor guy is one third of his previous weight, on a morphine continuous flow pump thing.

He's had no food or water (no drip either) for a week now, & he is still holding on. Staff can't fathom it.

We all just take turns being with him, telling him we love him, and wait. I hope he gets peace soon.

[Hopalong]

Hi 2bb,
The body just takes so long to let go.
I kept the same vigil, I know many of us have.

When they're in that last wasting stage it's my hope they're just floating in a fog (I could see the difference with the morphine, he just seemed to float), while the body goes about its tedious work of shutting down, one thing at a time. My dad was exactly that way, but the deeply labored, audible breaths were the cue that the end was on its merciful way.

Peace to all of you,
Hops

[Brigid]

2bb,

I went through this 1 1/2 years ago with my mother.  Having such conflicted feelings about her made it even worse, I think.  Take comfort in the fact that the hospice workers are so wonderful at what they do and make every effort to keep their patients comfortable until the end.

Your dad will let go when he's ready.  Blessings to you in OZ.

Hugs,

Brigid

[2bbetter]

Thanks everyone for your kindness

Ummm, not sure about this but was wondering if some of you got the wrong idea about 'Oz'... we Australians call Australia 'Oz'. No reference to wizard of...

Anyway, Dad passed away peacefully early this morning Perth time. We are all so relieved and happy he is at last at peace.

As I was growing up, I didn’t always realize everything you did for me.
I didn’t always understand the way you thought.
Yet you waited patiently and gave me room to grow.
You let me make my own decisions, and when they were wrong you picked me up and encouraged me to try again.
So many years have passed since I was a child, and now I realize that all the little things you did for me were your way of showing me that you loved me.
I’ve grown so much since then, but I’ll never be too big to say I LOVE YOU DAD.

[Certain Hope]

Glad for your peace and sympathetic with your loss, 2b... blessings to you and your family.

That's a lovely verse in honor of your Dad. (((((((((((())))))))))))

Hope

P.S.  yup... I knew you meant Australia

[Hopalong]

((((((((((((((((2bb)))))))))))))))))

Hops

[teartracks]

2b,

Hugs about your Dad.   

teartracks

[moonlight52]

Dear               ((((((((((((((((((((( 2bb )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))                                   

Bless you

And heartfelt sympathy




moon

[Gaining Strength]

2bbetter

Anyway, Dad passed away peacefully early this morning Perth time. We are all so relieved and happy he is at last at peace.

As I was growing up, I didn’t always realize everything you did for me.
I didn’t always understand the way you thought.
Yet you waited patiently and gave me room to grow.
You let me make my own decisions, and when they were wrong you picked me up and encouraged me to try again.
So many years have passed since I was a child, and now I realize that all the little things you did for me were your way of showing me that you loved me.
I’ve grown so much since then, but I’ll never be too big to say I LOVE YOU DAD.

So thankful for you that you could write such loving thought about your father.  So sorry that you should lose
someone that gave you room to grow and encouraged you to try again.

Even though he no longer walks these earthly paths his love and encouragement still lives on.  You can access him in you heart and thoughts any time. 

My prayers are with you.  My heart breaks that you would lose such a gift.  - your friend - Gaining Strength