Al-anon, aunts, dysfunction and birthdays

[Overcomer]

Hi Everyone!!  Well, I have been busy, busy....................too much going on but I finally got a breather to say TODAY IS MY 47TH BIRTHDAY AND I AM EXHAUSTED........

Al-anon - I went yesterday and someone brought up "emotional sobriety."  She said, "eating didn't help, drinking didn't help.....so I came to a meeting......."  And then I realized - alcoholic husband or not - al-anon is great for all the dysfunction that runs rampant in my family.

Remember we hired my nmom's sister?  My aunt?  Well, I want to take a job away from her because she just doesn't get it.  It's like she doesn't know she doesn't know......................you know?  It's like she thinks she gets it but she doesn't...............but she is more worried about what people will think if we take it away from her than what is good for our business.....................it is awful.  I need al-anon just to not go crazy watching my dysfunctional family in action!!!

Even my nmom sees some of the dysfunction!!  But she will probably allow aunt to do the scheduling because poor aunt!!  Well, just once I wish she would say "poor Kelly!!"

[Hopalong]

BAPPY HIRTHDAY TO YOU Kelly!

 

Hops

[fraidycat]

Happy Birthday Kelly!!
I'd like to say poor Kelly but it doesn't fit ( you'r not pathethic like your aunt) You seem so strong, spirtied and full of life... your giving.( I know you dont know me... but still you've helped me find courage) I'm so glad you are finding some scense dealing with your familly. (through al-anon or wherever!!} .  I wish only the best for you and Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope to find the courage to join on the board soon.           
                                                                                           
                                                                                       fraidycat

[penelope]

happy birthday kel

hiya fraidycat...seems to me you've joined.     welcome

bean

p.s.  A thing that helped me get over my own feelings of being scared to post - scared I'd say something improper, "wrong" for this board, silly, boring, downright rude, or whatever...well, I just kept on posting even through my anxiety (it works, and builds your confidence too!)
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[gratitude28]

Happy Birthday, girlfriend!!!!!

You know, I don't think I will ever drink again... I could do it without AA, but I LOVE the program and the coping skills you learn within. It is a great way to learn to deal with life... as it is.

So happy to hear from you, Kelly.

Love, Beth

[Overcomer]

Thanks to all of you.  And especially to you, Fraidycat!!  Really I am not strong - I am pissed!!  Life has made me so crazy and I cannot believe it has taken me all of these 47 (yikes) years to finally say ENOUGH!!!!!  But actually, I have been feeling bad and obsessing a little bit about my aunt.  It's like I know she is not capable of the job, but at the same time I don't want to hurt or embarrass her.  But on the other hand, why should I put the business in jeopardy in order to keep her appearance management up?  So I have applied for several more jobs.  What I would really like is for nmom and aunt to leave and let me do it without them.  But if they are going to be there then I think I need to say buh-bye!!

Anyway, Fraidycat - don't be afraid.  No one really knows who you are so you have the anonymity to say things you would never say to anyone else - at least not out loud.  It helps you to get things off your chest.  And then when you feel strong, you can reciprocate all the positive things that people did for you and give some insight on someone elses rants!!

Feel free to speak!!  You have a voice here!~  We listen.  We respond.  We point out when we think you are going down a wrong road.  But you have the power to tell us to take a flying leap if you want.  Or you can just ruminate on it.......it's up to you!!!