Author Topic: What is your first thought?: A simple exercise  (Read 3248 times)

reallyME

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Re: What is your first thought?: A simple exercise
« Reply #15 on: November 09, 2006, 03:21:18 PM »
My first thought "What the heck did he/she do that for?"  I'd probably eventually want to watch more of the nonverbals of the person to find out if something was bothering them, but I sure would not have the first thought be anything about my worthlessness or worthiness.  The dropping of the paper was that person's choice, having nothing to do with me. 

I think the hardest thing for abused people to overcome, is realizing that what others do, has NOTHING necessarily to do with them...another person's actions are separate from you, meaning you did not cause them, provoke them, encourage them.  That person just wanted to drop the paper on the floor, so they did. PERIOD.  It most likely has NOTHING to do with you or anyone in that room, unless we are given further data proving that someone or something somehow provoked it.

gratitude28

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Re: What is your first thought?: A simple exercise
« Reply #16 on: November 09, 2006, 06:44:39 PM »
I think KNOWING that ind INTERNALIZING that are two different things, Laura. I so wish I could react in that way... separate myself from people's behavior!!!
"There is a theory which states that if ever anyone discovers exactly what the Universe is for and why it is here, it will instantly disappear and be replaced by something even more bizarre and inexplicable." Douglas Adams