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CB123

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Home issue
« on: November 25, 2006, 12:43:39 PM »
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When they are older and telling their own children about their grandmother, they will be able to say that she stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way -- and it surely has not -- she adjusted her sails.  Elizabeth Edwards 2010

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Re: Home issue
« Reply #1 on: November 25, 2006, 06:29:37 PM »
(((CouldBe))))

You are so welcome. I always had roots growing out of the bottom of my feet and bonded strongly with whatever patch of dirt I was on. Some for very good reasons...some just because I felt the views and plants were actually my friends. (Less so the structures, now that I think of it...)

I know you'll find new ones. Your kids will suffer some but they will likely inspire you with their resilience. And you never know...you may find a place that really does feel right.

You ARE giving up more than a marriage. But maybe your grief for the house and land is more deep. I could imagine that...

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Re: Home issue
« Reply #2 on: November 26, 2006, 12:40:41 AM »
hope a perfect solution temporary house turns up for you.

I was dreading coming to this apartment, but it's actually been very pleasant on the whole, takes the pressure off me to work more to pay that extra $700 a month....I can save that towards the next place.

It is very insecurity-making, I've had a lot more anxiety and every thing that goes wrong has really upset me for a few hours, even stuff which I would normally not worry about.

Good luck (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


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Re: Home issue
« Reply #3 on: December 09, 2006, 03:33:01 PM »
I felt a great deal of sympathy for you in having to leave your home and your farm. This is a very wrenching things to do. So much of one's identity is wrapped up in a farm. It means changing the place you live as much as the culture you were living in.
You are really overhauling your life at many levels.
What a brave thing to do. I don't think many people would have the courage to do this.
You are doing something that will build are real, solid foundation for your kids. The view is not what matters. Your values and your courage to make the changes that have to come and at such a cost are critical to their psychological well being. Better to live in a cardboard box and have dignity and safety.
I am facing leaving my home and I feel as if I have one foot in one life and another foot poking around looking for firm footing somewhere.

You sound like a mother bear who is going to choose to be grounded wherever you are so that you can be there for her children. This is not so easy. Reach out for support here.

My prayers are with you.
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