If you've spent enough time around men, then
you've probably discovered that men DON'T MAKE
MUCH SENSE.
See where I'm going here?
If you try and use what makes sense to YOU as a
woman with a man... odds are you're going to get
very poor results.
Which means...
If you want to start getting better outcomes
and results when it comes to men, and you want to
be able to communicate with a man in a way that
brings him closer...
Then you're going to have to learn to STOP
doing what makes "sense" to you...
And START doing what it is that makes a man
FEEL ATTRACTED and MORE INTERESTED in you.
In other words... the biggest challenge most
women run into when it comes to "breaking through"
to men and getting past the surface dating stuff
and into a real relationship with a real man is
not being able to see past their own MINDSET and
the approach they've been using that hasn't
worked.
If you have the wrong mindset, and the thus the
wrong approach when it comes to men and dating...
then it practically guarantees you're going to
fail from the very beginning.
Seriously.
But if you can learn to understand how your
mindset affects how you interpret and respond to a
man... and you can start to get the kind of
PERSPECTIVE or AWARENESS that will lead you to
knowing what's really going on with a man, and how
to respond... then things are quickly and
naturally going to fall into place for you.
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ask now that we've identified some of the common
mistakes women make with men...
WHY don't these responses and ways of
communicating and dealing with men work? Even
though at the time responding this way makes
absolute sense?
Because they all have one terrible thing in
common...
They are all deadly forms of what I call
APPROVAL SEEKING BEHAVIOR.
Ok, so what does that mean?
And why is it such a terrible thing when it
comes to men, dating, attraction, and having a man
see you as the kind of woman he really wants to be
with?
Good question...
I'm going to try and make a long and
complicated story very short here to show you what
approval seeking behavior is, and why it's such a
GIANT MISTAKE with men...
See, men have all kinds of ways of thinking,
seeing things, and behaviors that aren't
completely conscious - but are what I'll call more
BIOLOGICAL or INSTINCTUAL.
These are things that have been instilled in
them over thousands and millions of years of
"conditioning" during mating and courtship rituals
with women.
When a man is looking for a woman, a part of
his instinctual "wiring" unconsciously tells him
to look for a woman who is healthy and "fit".
This means that men are biologically wired to
look for, and feel "attracted" to women who have
the qualities and traits that indicate a high
level of health and "fitness".
But unfortunately, this "screening process"
that's going on inside a man's mind is largely
UNCONSCIOUS.
In other words, a man can't and won't just walk
up to a woman and say,
"Hi, I'm looking for a mate. I'd like to know
if you would make a good mate for me. Are you any
of the following?
-Physically fit and healthy so you can conceive a
healthy child, give birth, and raise him/her?
-"Genetically fit" so that you have a high
likelihood to bear successful offspring by passing
off great qualities like size, strength,
intelligence, immunity, etc?
-Intelligent, "funny", and resourceful so that you
can not only be a mate that makes me feel
attracted to you and want to conceive lots of
children... but also help in this world of hard-
to-come-by resources?
-Going to make a great mother who can care for our
child and raise it while I'm out trying to
"provide"?
Catch my drift?
This is part of the reason why so often a woman
will ask a man why he's feeling one way or
another... or why he's acting different or not
interested in a relationship and he can't explain
it.
It's just the way he FEELS.
Either he FEELS ATTRACTED. Or he doesn't.
Of course, these "biological buttons" aren't
the only thing going on inside a man's mind.
Men do have more CONSCIOUS processes for the
way they choose a woman, and for the way they
feel.
If trying to cram all this into your head and
understand what it means, and how to respond to
all these things while trying to have a real
conversation with a man seems ridiculous and
daunting to you - it should.
The reality is that you can't sit and think to
yourself... "Gee, I'd like him to think I'd make a
good mate who could rear successful and healthy
children, I'll tell him about how healthy me and
my family are."
It just doesn't work that way.
A man looks at much subtler "cues" about a
woman that tell him what to think.
Some of these "cues" are:
-Physical Appearance (the obvious one): If you
have a specific hip-to-waist ratio, without
consciously "measuring" it, a man will see it and
possibly feel a physical attraction
-Health: Things like how white the whites in your
eyes are, your scent, and the tone and nature of
your skin are all subtle indicators of a healthy
immune system. Men find white eyes, certain
scents, and smooth skin attractive not because
they know they indicate that a woman is healthy
and will have a high likelihood of success for
offspring, but because they FEEL ATTRACTED to
these things for some reason.
-"Emotional Fitness": If a woman has the kind of
attitude and "vibe" about her that is fun to be
around, stimulating, exciting, and positive and
consistent... then a man unconsciously will see
her as a good long-term mate.
To find out all the things that truly interest
and attract men... as well as the more subtle and
complex things that make a man become EMOTIONALLY
INVOLVED with a woman it could take a long long
time to figure out.
It could take you literally years of research,
of failed relationships, and of trying different
things.
And even then you might not arrive at what is
really going on with men, and how to make a
relationship come together and work.
If you're single after all these years, and you
still don't have the knowledge and the confidence
that comes from truly knowing how to approach and
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It also doesn't hurt that I happen to be a man
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