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CB123

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Another sleepless night
« on: January 19, 2007, 04:01:48 AM »
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When they are older and telling their own children about their grandmother, they will be able to say that she stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way -- and it surely has not -- she adjusted her sails.  Elizabeth Edwards 2010

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Re: Another sleepless night
« Reply #1 on: January 19, 2007, 05:37:36 AM »
Cb

So sorry you did not sleep last night.  I hate that.  When things go round and round in your head and you just cant switch off.  Had some of that myself also last night. 

I just think you H is so sick.  His lack of empathy towards his kids.......... well we are talking N here.  Its like they can switch one person off and another on and cannot understand how another cannot do this.  It is really rubbing his face in it.  I had to laugh about sports car etc.  they are just so pathetic. 

Another strategy with your son could be to let him talk and as he says what he feels just to acknowledge his feelings by mirroring back his words.  Reflective listening is very powerful.  It really helps one understand that the person  you are talking hears clearly what you are saying. 

As for Granma from hell.  Well clear boundaries and if they are broken no contact.  How dare she abuse your vulnerable kids with her crap.

Try and rest you are going to need your energy for the next anslaught.


xxxxx axa and sending you zzzzzzzzzzzzz

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Re: Another sleepless night
« Reply #2 on: January 19, 2007, 08:10:14 AM »
"But the topic was on choosing life, and it used as its illustration three brothers who grew up in an abusive home and were suicidal.  One brother committed suicide and another brother, while standing over the dead body, decided to choose life.  "
 
That is horrifying! and beyond human even for an N.  I am amazed by your response.  You a thinking and responding ingeniously. Through all the darkness you are becoming yourself so quickly.  Clearly you are capable of so much.  I know it must feel good and comforting to yourself to see what you are capable of.  - GS

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Re: Another sleepless night
« Reply #3 on: January 19, 2007, 12:15:07 PM »
In her twisted up mind she probably thought she was being supportive, but you're right, CB.
Gag.
(Now we know exactly why Mr. N is the way he is.)

Oh grotesque you've had to put up with that for so long.

Once all the nonsense of the transition is through ( it WILL be) and there's some steadying and calm and settling in to your freedom, you'll look back and find six wonderful reasons you're going to be okay.

No, seven. You being Number One.

love,
Hops

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