Please help with my dream

[Stormchild]

((((((((((dazed))))))))))

you do have a life of your own... and you are living it... now!

[Dazed1]

Dear Beth,

I wanted to post to you on your threads, but now, I kinda forgot what I was going to say, so I want to re-read your threads, so I’ll make sense.

By the way, your Oscar Wilde quote cracks me up every time I read it.

I am never sick of hearing from you.  Perish the thought.

“Feeling like an adult for the first time... Ain't it the truth???? We never got to go through a normal childhood ar adolescence, so we hhave to learn how to do all that as an adult, without developed coping skills.”   Absolutely, Beth.  My T told me I’m like “a little baby” (she didn’t mean it in a negative or derogatory way) that has to grow up and she said that I have to learn “social skills”. 

“Feeling sick when you realize someone is an N... I felt like I had been punched int he stomache the day I realized that my mother doesn't love me and never will.” Oh, ((((((((((Beth))))))))))), I’m so sorry.

“It made so much sense, but it hurt so much.”   ((((((((((Beth))))))))))  "And I badly wanted to hurt her back.”  I know the feeling.

Thank you for all your insights.  You have really helped me.

Love to you ((((((((Beth))))))))),
dazed

[Dazed1]

Storm,

Thanks again for your help.

Love,
dazed

[Stormchild]

not at all, dazed. if you can't express these things without being judged here, then where on earth can you?

((((((((((dazed))))))))))

[Gaining Strength]

Dazed - where is the emotion in this dream?  Is it in the blender?  Is it in the conversation with your mother?  And what is the emotion?

The emotion can be key to interpreting dreams.  Without knowing where the emotion is I have cobbled together an interpretation from pieces of others posts.  This actually may be a rewording of Stormchild's.  Perhaps the blender is the blended enmeshment of your life with your mother's and the melting of the blender is the dissolution of that enmeshment which your mother sees as your death.  As an N she is unable to see you as existing beyond your enmeshment. 

I have been told many times that a house in a dream is the person dreaming.  If that applies to this dream then your unconscious recognizes the split that you are experiencing from your mother's enmeshment. 

That is really big. - your friend - GS

[isittoolate]

To Beth and Dazed, and all,

“Feeling like an adult for the first time... Ain't it the truth???? We never got to go through a normal childhood ar adolescence, so we hhave to learn how to do all that as an adult, without developed coping skills.”    Absolutely, Beth.  My T told me I’m like “a little baby” (she didn’t mean it in a negative or derogatory way) that has to grow up and she said that I have to learn “social skills”.  At the time, I didn’t know what she meant by “social skills”, but now I do:  like learning how to have satisfying relationships with people, being assertive, not aggressive and BOUNDARIES.

Very Good!! I realized this for myself (but in my own jumbled way) and therefore my nickname of "is it too late" at 67. There is a  lot to do and we never know how much time is left. I realized that my current lack of emotional maturity rests on all the root casues. If I can understand the casue, study it, then I might be able to move forward without having to spend ALL my remaining years in Therapy, just to become 'wonderful' then die.

Thank you

Izzy