Can we choose? Good morning or bad morning everyone?

[Lupita]

What do we want to choose? We can choose how to use our time and our life and our heart. Your own mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission. Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens. You can come out of the furnace of trouble two ways: if you let if consume you, you come out a cinder; but there is a kind of metal which refuses to be consumed, and comes out a star. You can give in to the failure messages and be a bitter deadbeat of excuses. Or you can choose to be happy and positive and excited about life.
One comes to believe whatever one repeats to oneself sufficiently often, whether the statement be true of false. It comes to be dominating thought in one's mind. Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other. Optimism. The doctrine or belief that everything is beautiful, including what is ugly. Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us. Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force.


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[Overcomer]

I am optimistic that today is going to be a good day and I am a wonderful person who has high hopes for my future!

[Lupita]

Dear Over,
That is the right attitude. So proud of you. I have been a very negative person all my life. I am trying to change, started last week. Yesterday and today were the first two days that I felt more or less well in many days. So I am procaticing, GS advise. to write nice things, and say nice things. Because the more we repaet, the more willenter in our brain. Positive attitude!!!!!! Smile!!!!! I have to re-train my thought process. Start all over. Leaving with an N parent really mess up with your perception of things.
Lupita

[Lupita]

And I will repeat it over and over again. I will feel well. On my own. Not depending on other people's actions. I do not need recognition, I know who I am. (I don't know, I am just trying to hipnotize myself) I don't need compliments. I feel well. I don't need anybody to satisfy my emotional needs. I will do it my self. I will smile. I will feel well.
With Go'd help.

[Hopalong]

Oh Lupita, this is beautiful to read!
I hope you feel pride in what you're doing...it really is a huge, huge, huge leap of growth.
GOOD FOR YOU!

I will feel well. On my own. Not depending on other people's actions. I do not need recognition, I know who I am.

hugs,
Hops

[Lupita]

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You are here!!!!!   I love all your comments!!!!

[Lupita]

Today I had to give tests results to my students. I had one senior failed. He has been very disrespectful all quarter. And lazy too. But he was so disappointed, that I felt so sad for him. He never imagined that if he did not work, he would not earned a good grade. I feel so sorry for him, despite that he bought it up to him self, that I will do anything to help him catch up next quarter and end the year with a good grade. Someday he will understand that I was just trying to help him despite that at this moment he probably hates me. At the mean time, I have to feel well because I know I did the right thing. 

[gratitude28]

Hi Lupe,
Mostly I can choose to have a good day... but you ever have one of those mornings when you wake up sleepy, the coffee is bitter, the kids can't find anything, the dog is whiny, traffic is bad, boss is grumpy, etc? Sometimes it gets so bad you have to laugh... and other times the black cloud settles around you Happily, I have very few of those days lately.
Love to all of you...

Lupita... it IS hard when you have empathy... Even if your student is a butthead, he is still a kid. Lesson learned for him. Let's hope he grows from it. Please let me add that I was a MAJOR butthead in high school. I am trying hard to make up for that.

Love, Beth

[Lupita]

Hummm.......Interesting. I was a good student and a suck up to the teachers. Always seeking what did not have at home. Always looking for aproval. I have to stop that too.
Love
Lupita

[Lupita]

Today is Saturday. I am alone at home. God will help me to overcome my loneliness. I will have a good day. I will try.
Thank you God.
Love to all.

[Overcomer]

Lup:  I have heard about and yesterday I read about "The Secret."  Well, it is about thinking positively so much that it can change the outcome of your life.  My doc told me the same thing a few months ago.  She told me I had negative energy.  She told me to read the Battefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer (a CHristian book) about replacing those negative mantras we play over and over in our minds which negatively effect our whole outlook and therefore our lives.  Over the years so many bad things have happened to me that it almost becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.  I started to expect bad things to happen.  Coupled with the negative self image I have which has been perpetuated on my by my nmom.  Well, I am on a quest to think positively.  To expect the best.  To anticipate good things happening to me.  My newest one is to think of myself thin.  So that I will be thin!!!

[Hopalong]

Lupita,
How about getting involved in a Saturday volunteer activity?
Or finding a happy, positive church you could do things at on Sundays?

Almost all of my close friendships have come from my church life.
Getting busy and volunteering for things.

Hops

[Lupita]

Hops, hops, you always with kind words. I really appreaciate your friendship. Today I am going to church. Later going to read, and after that clean house.
Hope to chat with you through the board later.
How did your pictures came out? Do you look great? How can we do to start looking for  boyfriend? just kidding.
Love
Lupita

[Lupita]

Hope, one thing, tell me if I am mistake, I want to volunteer when i can feel a little better with my self. I want to take a positive attitude to the place and happiness. I am not very happy now. And seeing people in disadvantage, does not make me feel batter. It even makes me feel worse. As I was telling in other post, if seeing people with less luck than as would make us happy nobody would be sad because everybody would find somebody under us in the ladder of success, or in the ladder or happiness or in the ladder of health, etc. Maybe i am not making any sense, but you can tell me something about.
Love
Lupita

[Hopalong]

Hi Lupita,
I know what you mean. Suffering doesn't cheer one up.
But sometimes just getting into a flow of what needs doing can distract us from our own isolation and pain. It just makes meaning, working like that, I think.

That said (easy to say), I judge myself pretty harshly as far as my efforts to change the world go. So I'm not a good advisor.

I wonder, how do you feel about animals? If helping suffering people makes you worse, how about helping in an animal shelter? Volunteering to take the inmates for walks?

Sometimes I hear people are changed by going to work with poor people and finding the generosity and hospitality among them. It's not as common in contemporary culture, as poverty is so often associated with desperation. But in some places there's a kindness.

Maybe you could find something useful to do that has nothing to do with suffering. Gardening in a community garden. Jeez, I dunno.

I am really a bad advisor on this. I get paralysed too often.

I'm thinking of going to the March on the Pentagon on the 17th because I didn't demonstrate while my brother was in Viet Nam, out of confusion...and I'm a bit scared to go. My back.

Hope you find the right way to connect with the community that will help you find peace, Lupita.

Hops